What doesn't break us makes us stronger. Everything that doesn’t kill us makes us stronger! Do you agree with this statement and if so, to what extent?

The quote in the title belongs to F. Nietzsche. And I ask myself the question.

What prompted me to ask myself this question?
Am I stronger after all the blows of fate...bitter insults...disappointments...

Unfortunately no! I still get upset, noticing injustice, lies, betrayal... I also experience disappointments... resentment... I also suffer, noticing insincerity in relationships... but...
...something, against my will, somehow, almost imperceptibly, is still changing...
...sometimes a chill creeps into my soul...
More and more often I want to quote: “Fear the Danaans who bring gifts”...
What is this? The first signs of incipient cynicism...?

And I remembered...
Once upon a time on one of family holidays, after several toasts, when everyone became more talkative and the internal censor weakened, my uncle told how he gradually became... a cynic...

So here's what he said:

For the first time, bitter disappointment, perhaps even shock, befell me when my mother took me, a first-grader, to the market with her, I remember what I needed for a performance knitted slippers, and they had to be measured...
We walk between the rows where grandmothers sit with knitted products, and we meet... my teacher...
She comes with a shopping bag, from which, as I remember now, you can see a bunch of radishes and green onions...
They stopped...and...oh, God...they started talking about prices...that the first radish was still very expensive, but the teacher really wanted to pamper her family with a spring salad...

You see, she was a Divinity for me... when she touched my hand, I froze... with happiness...
And suddenly, she is an ordinary woman who, like my mother, goes to the market... cooks food...
I don’t know what was happening to me, but I... started crying... my mother couldn’t understand what was wrong for a long time, and I couldn’t explain...

The next time, when I was 10-11 years old, older boys, when we were walking in the yard, laughing at my naivety, began to explain how children are made...
It was a blow!!! I was angry and shouted that my parents had never done this and would never do it...!!!
And they didn’t just laugh...they laughed out loud! And, laughing sarcastically, they suggested... asking mom or dad...
Naturally, I didn’t ask anything... but... do I need to explain with what horror I looked at my parents until I got used to this knowledge of mine... reassuring myself that since there is no other way, then, probably , they had to do it once for me to show up...

Then, at the very turn of the transition from adolescence to youth, I experienced terrible pain... pain from the betrayal of my first love and best friend...
When I found out that she was making love with both me and him... I didn’t want to live...
I still don’t know what saved me then, but I wanted to poison myself and hang myself...

Subsequently, the path to cynicism in my character became shorter and shorter...
Now I’m a complete cynic: I don’t believe in anything or anyone...
-And me too? - exclaimed my aunt, his wife.
- And first of all... your uncle tried to laugh it off...

So, in your opinion, you can’t trust anyone at all?” I asked, after listening to these revelations of his.
-Masha, I know for sure that you can absolutely trust only your mother... and the rest... depending on your luck...

And now I ask this question: What does not kill us makes us stronger or creates cynicism???

A person is spoken of in a passive form. Those. There is a preset that nothing depends on a person.
The second substitution trick: “kills” - is it a process or a result? If “kills” means making us closer to death and more helpless, then the expression turns into “everything that does not make us weaker makes us stronger”... Tautology, yes Neutral events are also ignored. If it already “kills” - this is the result, then one can judge the event only when it has completely taken place, i.e. when it is no longer possible to intervene and use force. Killed? That means it made it weaker! Didn’t it kill you? (And this is about everyone who is still able to read) So it made you stronger! It’s very nice to read how you become stronger for free.
The third substitution trick: who decides what strength is? What about people who do not fit into the framework of this thought and do not feel their strength after trauma? And it's very simple. You need to tell them that they are strong (and this aphorism will give weight to your words). And mentally solve their problem for yourself, because other people’s problems can be solved in an elementary way. Is anyone having trouble doing something? So you just need to “believe in yourself”, “try hard”, “let go of the bad”, “think constructively” and other meaningless motivational statements. And even if the “patient” resists and pushes away his strength, then this inconsistency between reality and the aphorism is temporary ... sooner or later he will either get out or die (and stop bothering, falling out of attention).
And now about the consequences: what will happen if you blindly follow this thought?
The person will strengthen his passive position and the belief that nothing depends on him. And he will be able to more easily refuse what he considers beyond his strength.
A person will receive the correct undeniable truth if he perceives “kills” as a process, or will receive a criterion for solving situations that have already ended if he perceives “kills” as a result. After this, you can more confidently broadcast the truth (the process) and not be afraid that the solution you propose will cause Negative consequences(result).
A person receives another inviolable rule of life, which helps to feel the unity and limitations of this world at the cost of avoiding contradictions.
And finally, about the reasons that made this aphorism so popular. The aphorism helps to distract from one’s powerlessness, it helps to communicate more confidently and be firmer in one’s decisions, it protects against feelings of guilt and shame when dealing with other people’s unresolved problems, and, finally, it does a more predictable and safer picture of the world. But the price is high! If you (according to your ideas) know how to admit your mistakes, are free and spontaneous in communicating with other people, are ready for surprises in this world and still adhere to this belief, let me know about it and refute my words with your own example.

Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche ( Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche; - ) - , representative . He subjected it to the sharpest criticism of his time and developed his own theory. Nietzsche was a literary rather than an academic philosopher, and his writings are of character. Nietzsche's philosophy has had big influence on the formation of and, and also became very popular in literary and circles. The interpretation of his works is quite difficult and still causes a lot of controversy.

Biography

Philosophy

Nietzsche's philosophy is not organized into a system. Nietzsche considered the “will to the system” to be unconscionable. His research covers all possible issues of philosophy, religion, ethics, psychology, sociology, etc. Inheriting thought, Nietzsche contrasts his philosophy with the classical tradition of rationality, questioning and questioning all the “evidence” of reason. Most Interest Nietzsche raises questions of morality, “the revaluation of all values.” Nietzsche was one of the first to question the unity of the subject, the causality of the will, truth as the single basis of the world, and the possibility of rational justification of actions. His metaphorical, aphoristic presentation of his views earned him fame as a great stylist. However, for Nietzsche, an aphorism is not just a style, but a philosophical attitude - not to give final answers, but to create tension in thought, to enable the reader himself to “resolve” the emerging paradoxes of thought.

Nietzsche specifies Schopenhauer's "will to live" as the "will to power", since life is nothing more than the desire to expand one's power. However, Nietzsche criticizes Schopenhauer for his negative attitude towards life. Considering the entire culture of mankind as the way in which a person adapts to life, Nietzsche proceeds from the primacy of self-affirmation of life, its excess and completeness. In this sense, every religion and philosophy should glorify life in all its manifestations, and everything that denies life and its self-affirmation is worthy of death. Nietzsche considered Christianity to be such a great negation of life. Nietzsche was the first to declare that “there are no moral phenomena, there are only moral interpretations of phenomena,” thereby challenging all moral propositions. According to Nietzsche, healthy morality must glorify and strengthen life, its will to power. Any other morality is decadent, a symptom of illness, decadence. Humanity instinctively uses morality to achieve its goal - the goal of expanding its power. The question is not whether morality is true, but whether it serves its purpose. We observe such a “pragmatic” formulation of the question in Nietzsche in relation to philosophy and culture in general. Nietzsche advocates for the arrival of such “free minds” who will set themselves conscious goals of “improving” humanity, whose minds will no longer be “stupefied” by any morality, by any restrictions. Nietzsche calls such a “supermoral” person, “beyond good and evil,” “superman.”

Regarding knowledge, the “will to truth,” Nietzsche again adheres to his “pragmatic” approach, asking “why do we need truth?” For the purposes of life, truth is not needed; rather, illusion and self-deception lead humanity to its goal - self-improvement in the sense of expanding the will to power. But the “free minds”, the chosen ones, must know the truth in order to be able to control this movement. These chosen ones, the immoralists of humanity, the creators of values, must know the reasons for their actions, give an account of their goals and means. Nietzsche devotes many of his works to this “school” of free minds.

Mythology

The imagery and metaphorical nature of Nietzsche’s works allows us to identify a certain mythology in him:

• Nietzsche proceeds from the duality () of culture, where principles and principles fight. Apollo ( greek god light) symbolizes order and harmony, and Dionysus (Greek god of wine) symbolizes darkness, chaos and excess power. These principles are not equivalent. Dark God ancient. Strength causes order, Dionysus begets Apollo. The Dionysian will (der Wille - in Germanic languages ​​means desire) always turns out to be will to power is an interpretation of the ontological basis of existence. Nietzsche was similarly influenced. The entire course of evolution and the struggle for survival ( struggle for existence) is nothing more than a manifestation of this will to power. The sick and weak must die, and the strongest must win. Hence Nietzsche: “Push him who is falling!”, which should be understood not in the simplified sense that one should not help one’s neighbors, but in the fact that the most effective help to your neighbor - to give him the opportunity to reach an extreme in which he can rely only on his survival instincts, in order to be reborn or die from there. This manifests Nietzsche’s faith in life, in its possibility of self-rebirth and resistance to everything fatal. "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger"!
• Just as man evolved from the monkey, so as a result of this struggle man must evolve into (Übermensch). and all the so-called spiritual values ​​are just a tool to achieve dominance. Therefore, the superman is different from ordinary people above all, an indestructible will. He is more of a genius or rebel than a ruler or hero. A true superman is a destroyer of old values ​​and a creator of new ones. He rules not over a herd, but over entire generations. However, the will has no forward movement. Its main enemies are its own manifestations, what Marx called the force of alienation of the spirit. The only shackles of a strong-willed person are his own promises. By creating new values, the superman gives rise to culture - or Spirit of gravity, like ice freezing the river of will. Therefore, a new superman must come - . He does not destroy old values. They have exhausted themselves, because, Nietzsche claims, they are dead. The era of the European has arrived, to overcome which the Antichrist must create new values. He contrasts the humble and envious morality of slaves master morals. However, then he will be born new Dragon and a new superman will come. This will be the case ad infinitum, for this shows eternal return. One of the main concepts in Nietzsche's philosophy is decadence ().

Quotes

““Goal”, “need” quite often turn out to be just a plausible pretext, an additional self-blinding of vanity, which does not want to admit that the ship is following the current in which it got in by accident"

“...It’s as if values ​​are hidden in things and the whole point is just to master them!”

“Oh, how conveniently you have settled in! You have the law and an evil eye on those who only in their thoughts are against the law. We are free - what do you know about the torment of responsibility towards yourself!

“Our entire sociology does not know any other instinct than the instinct of the herd, i.e. summed up zeros - where each zero has “the same rights”, where it is considered a virtue to be a zero...”

“Virtue is refuted if you ask “why?”...

“If you want to rise high, use your own legs! Don’t let yourself be carried, don’t sit on other people’s shoulders and heads!”

“If you peer into an abyss for a long time, the abyss will begin to peer into you.”

“There are two types of loneliness. For one, loneliness is the escape of the sick; for another, it is an escape from the sick.”

“There are two ways to free you from suffering: quick death and lasting love.”

“Every slightest step on the field of free thinking and personally shaped life is always won at the cost of spiritual and physical torment.”

“Criticism of modern philosophy: the fallacy of the starting point that there are “facts of consciousness” - that in the field of introspection there is no place for phenomenalism”

“Whoever is attacked by his time is not yet sufficiently ahead of it - or behind him”

“We are the heirs of two thousand years of vivisection of conscience and self-crucifixion.”

“Alone with ourselves, we imagine everyone more simple-minded than ourselves: in this way we give ourselves a break from our neighbors.”

"Nothing can be bought at a greater price than a particle human mind and freedom..."

“Nothing strikes so deeply, nothing destroys so much, like “impersonal debt,” like a sacrifice to the Moloch of abstraction...”

“He who knows himself is his own executioner”

“The same thing happens to a person as to a tree. The more he strives upward, towards the light, the deeper his roots go into the ground, downwards, into darkness and depth - towards evil.”

"Death is close enough that you don't have to fear life"

“Man gradually became a fantastic animal, which to a greater extent, than any other animal, strives to justify the condition of existence: a person must from time to time seem to know why he exists; his breed is not able to prosper without periodic trust in life, without faith in the intelligence inherent in life.

“Man prefers to desire non-existence than not to desire at all”

“Humanity is a means rather than an end. Humanity is simply experimental material."

"To moral values could achieve dominance, they must rely exclusively on forces and affects of an immoral nature.”

“I do not run away from the proximity of people: it is the distance, the eternal distance that lies between man and man, that drives me into loneliness.”

“...But what convinces does not thereby become true: it is only convincing. Note for donkeys."

• “God is dead” (This phrase appears in the work “Thus Spoke Zarathustra”)

• "God is dead; God died because of his compassion for people” (“Thus Spoke Zarathustra”, chapter “On the Compassionate”)

• “‘God himself cannot exist without wise men,’ said Luther, and with every right; but “God can even less exist without stupid people” - Luther didn’t say that!”

• “If God wanted to become an object of love, then he should first renounce the position of a judge dispensing justice: a judge, and even a merciful judge, is not an object of love.”

• “An evil god needs no less than a good one - after all, his own own existence you owe nothing to tolerance and philanthropy... What is the use of a god who knows no anger, envy, cunning, ridicule, vindictiveness and violence?”

• “Without the tenets of faith, no one could live even a moment! But thus these dogmas are by no means proven. Life is not an argument at all; Among the conditions of life there could be delusion.”

• “The theme for a great poet could be the boredom of the Most High after the seventh day of Creation”

• “In every religion, a religious person is an exception”

• “The supreme thesis: “God forgives the repentant,” the same translation: forgives the one who submits to the priest...”

• "Dogma of" immaculate conception“?.. But they discredited the conception...”

• "A pure spirit is a pure lie"

• “Fanatics are colorful, and humanity is more pleased to see gestures than to listen to arguments.”

• “The word 'Christianity' is based on a misunderstanding; in essence, there was one Christian, and he died on the cross."

• “The founder of Christianity believed that people suffered more from nothing than from their sins: this was his delusion, the delusion of one who felt himself without sin, who lacked experience here!”

• “The teaching and the apostle, who does not see the weakness of his teaching, his religion, etc., blinded by the authority of the teacher and reverence for him, usually has greater strength than a teacher. Never before has a man’s influence and his deeds grown without blind disciples.”

• “Faith saves, therefore it lies”

• “Buddhism does not promise, but keeps its word; Christianity promises everything, but does not keep its word.”

• “Martyrs only harmed the truth”

• “A person forgets his guilt when he confesses it to another, but the latter usually does not forget it.”

• “Blood is the worst witness to truth; blood poisons the purest teaching to the point of madness and hatred of hearts"

• “Virtue only gives happiness and some kind of bliss to those who firmly believe in their own virtue - not at all to refined souls, whose virtue consists in a deep distrust of themselves and of all virtue. In the end, here too “faith makes you blessed”! - and not, notice this carefully, virtue!

• “Moral people feel complacency when they have remorse.”

• "School of Survival: What Doesn't Kill Us Makes Us Stronger"

• “Perhaps love your neighbor as yourself. But above all, be those who love themselves."

• “The Jewish stockbroker is the most vile invention of the entire human race.” ( This phrase was completed by Nietzsche’s sister, during the years of his madness, Nietzsche himself despised anti-Semites)

• “When you go to a woman, take a whip”

• "Life would be a mistake without music"

• “Blessed are those who forget, for they do not remember their own mistakes.”

Works

Major works

• "The Birth of Tragedy, or Hellenism and Pessimism" ( Die Geburt der Tragödie, 1871)
• "Untimely Thoughts" ( Unzeitgemässe Betrachtungen, 1872-1876)

1. "David Strauss as Confessor and Writer" ( David Strauss: der Bekenner und der Schriftsteller, 1873)
2. “On the benefits and harms of history for life” ( Vom Nutzen und Nachtheil der Historie für das Leben, 1874)
3. "Schopenhauer as an educator" ( Schopenhauer als Erzieher, 1874)
4. "Richard Wagner in Bayreuth" ( Richard Wagner in Bayreuth, 1876)

• « » ( Menschliches, Allzumenschliches, 1878)
• "Mixed Opinions and Sayings" ( Vermischte Meinungen und Sprüche, 1879)
• "The Wanderer and His Shadow" ( Der Wanderer und sein Schatten, 1879)
• "Morning dawn, or thoughts about moral prejudices" ( Morgenrote, 1881)
• "Fun Science" ( Die fröhliche Wissenschaft, 1882, 1887)
• « » ( Also sprach Zarathustra, 1883-1887)
• « » ( Jenseits von Gut und Böse, 1886)
• “Toward the genealogy of morality. Polemical essay" ( Zur Genealogie der Moral, 1887)
• "Case Wagner" ( Der Fall Wagner, 1888)

Life is pretty interesting thing. To some it seems incredibly beautiful and light, while to others, on the contrary, it is unbearably heavy... Who will say that it is unfair, and who will say that better fate and not to be found, but who is truly right? The truth is that each person perceives life differently, one has learned to rejoice in what is today, because yesterday he didn’t even have this, but to the other, no matter how much you give, it will still not be enough! This is where human greed lies.

People are creatures who do not see light or darkness, they are creatures who see only what they want to see, what they need, what attracts them!

My personal worldview has changed German philosopher, who was mocked by the scientists of that time, but he did not lag behind and did not change his mind. People who, even under pressure from the masses, did not change their opinion always aroused my delight and respect, because not everyone can fight against the system. Even a small cancer cell that fights against the system in the body is respected, because it is also trying to survive, a lion killing a defenseless lamb does not kill for pleasure, but in order to continue the race and so that its children can grow up and gain strength. The world is cruel, according to Darwin's theory, survival of the fittest, but according to my own theory, those who strive to survive survive!

“What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!” One small but brilliant phrase that the little-known philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said! A phrase that has passed through centuries, through time, through generations of people, so different, but also so identical in their desire to live and continue the family line. There is a lot of evidence that people are just like animals, but there is one important trait that only we can control! This trait, this gift is the ability to think! And it is precisely because of this that even I have the opportunity to give free rein to my thoughts and change something in our world, because you don’t need to try to change the world, you just need to change yourself!

Humanity... Time... Faith... God... Civilization... Progress... Power... Authority... You... and Me! Things that did not appear without people who were striving for what! They didn’t renounce their ideas, but, despite everything, they moved forward!
Nietzsche was very ill during his lifetime, and his illness did not hinder him! And until death knocked on his door, he created and wrote about things that help people believe in themselves, even to this day.

Let's break one quote down into the root cause and the conclusion. The root cause is “that which does not kill!” The conclusion is “what makes you stronger!”

What doesn't kill! ..What doesn't kill us? Every morning we wake up and go to work or study, sometimes we do it through force, but we do it. This is how we overcome our laziness, it doesn’t kill us, which means it makes us stronger! We communicate with people and do not always agree with them, we enter into a discussion, and gain experience. It also does not kill us, which means it strengthens us! Eat different people: some people like us, and the rest are trying to trample us into the dirt and as far as possible! We think, analyze and try to find the right way out from this situation... It doesn’t kill us, which means it makes us stronger.

We are trying to survive in a world where everyone is for themselves and everyone is trying to carve out a place in the sun! Life does not kill us, and therefore makes us stronger. A simple cold, runny nose, headache, due to non-compliance with hygiene rules or rules of personal protection against colds makes us think about whether we should have dressed so lightly yesterday, whether we should drink cigarettes and alcohol, I generally keep quiet about drugs! But even here there is much more deeper difference and a much more interesting opinion! When we are sick, our body thinks even without our permission and even before the time we start taking medications, the antibodies in the body have already begun to destroy foreign bacteria that have invaded their domain, they will remember these painful bacteria and will be ready next time! It doesn't kill us, it makes us stronger! And we remember that God protects those who are protected, and we draw timely conclusions for ourselves!

Conclusion is what makes you stronger! Every day we fight, gain experience, try to become better, improve, strengthen. Physical labor strengthens our body, because we can’t just lie and think all day, mental labor strengthens our consciousness, we get ready and don’t panic when things don’t work out, but we learn to immediately find a way out of any situation, no matter how difficult it is. was. We believe, and everyone has their own faith, and it is faith that helps us strengthen spiritually and wake up in the morning with a dream that strengthens our desire to achieve something, to move forward! And it doesn’t matter how many times you stumbled, how many times you fell. It is important that you can always get up and still reach the end. DO NOT bend, do not break, but stand until the end and get to your goal, to your dream!

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger! Every new day this phrase inevitably goes with us through life! And it doesn’t matter whether we agree with it or not, it’s still true!

Once upon a time, one person discovered a truth that was known to everyone, but today all people are guided by one truth. Nietzsche's philosophy was entirely aimed at one single goal! To prove to people that they can do absolutely anything if they believe in themselves!

After all, faith in own strength- this is the energy that gives birth to something new and extremely large! Self-confidence is the power of the Universe, the power of God, the power of the superman. Each person holds within himself that energy that can change not only the world, but also all of humanity. Internal energy gives birth to a force that changes a person’s worldview, some direct it for good, others for evil...

Abraham Lincoln went bankrupt four times in his life and was left with almost nothing, but still did not give up, rose up and went towards his goal. Finally, these merciless blows of fate did not kill him, but only struck him stronger and more resilient!
Walt Disney got kicked out of the newspaper for lack of creativity, and now look what he became! A legend of creativity!
Isaac Newton was one of the worst students, the teachers constantly repeated that nothing worthwhile would ever come of him, but now we are using brilliant formulas, and no one will even remember the names of his teachers.
Albert Einstein did not speak until he was four years old, he was kicked out of college for getting bad marks, and now he is recognized as one of the best minds humanity.

Beethoven did not know how to hold the violin correctly and his teacher constantly said that he was a complete mediocrity in music... It’s funny, but if this “mediocrity” had held the violin correctly, perhaps today we would not have heard such brilliant works as “ Moonlight Sonata", "Melody of Tears", "Für Eliza", "Storm", etc.

All these people fell, but still rose, they knew the cost of losses, but they also knew what victory was. For this you can bow low to them. There is something to learn from such people and something to borrow.

Nietzsche's philosophy greatly influenced the history of mankind, because thanks to his works about the superman, such a tyrant as Adolf Hitler appeared. And although, as sorry as it is to say this, this man was also able to believe in himself and achieve heights from nothing, but his internal energy he directed not towards good deeds, but towards the seedlings of evil on planet Earth.

This once again proves that the chosen ones, the best people does not exist, we are all equal and only those who believe in themselves, those who believe in their strength and those who are not afraid to rise after the first unsuccessful fall will be able to achieve something,

You will never be the first to come running if you walk, you will never fall if you lie down, you will never be the first if you do not see the back of your opponent, you will never be able to call yourself a human if you simply exist...

And it doesn’t matter whether you agree with me or not, because I will still stand my ground, no matter what lies ahead. I will still go, no matter how many times I have to fall, I will still rise and no matter what grade I receive for opinions pouring from the heart, because I know one thing that can change the life of every living person on this earth : “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!

When a “dark streak” begins in life, many people become depressed, thereby further aggravating the current situation. By submitting to circumstances, they seem to admit in advance that they have lost. And they don’t even try to find a way out, deciding that nothing can be done anyway. Such thoughts are the first sign of weakness. You need to fight in any case, no matter what trials life has in store.

You don’t need to set yourself up for the bad, but you also shouldn’t expect only gifts from life. Any circumstances should be perceived as an experience, which shapes the attitude towards the surrounding reality.

You should not count on the help and support of loved ones. Yes, when there are sympathetic people around, it is easier to survive troubles. But, on the other hand, this is also a step back. Support and words of consolation very often give rise to feelings of self-pity. They rarely motivate decisive action. The words of loved ones have a calming effect, and there is a desire to come to terms with the situation rather than overcome it. This is why it is often more useful to try to sort out problems yourself. Of course, you shouldn’t refuse help. But also count on her, accusing others of indifference. Perhaps the self-removal of loved ones from solving your problems is the first step towards the beginning of a new, brighter and rich life, which you will manage yourself.

Don't blame yourself for all your problems. Self-examination is the first step to deep depression. It is better to direct your energy to finding a way out of the current unpleasant situation.

Why life's difficulties make people stronger

Not everyone who has experienced unpleasant events is able to become stronger. Many “break down” and start drinking alcohol to forget. This is the way to the bottom. Intoxication only temporarily relieves problems and makes you stop thinking about them. But it doesn't solve them. Troubles accumulate, “wind up” on each other, and every day it becomes more and more difficult to find a way out. That is why to fight difficult circumstances need as soon as they appear. Think about solving problems, look for ways to overcome them, and not hide from them. Only such behavior can transform a person into a strong, integral personality. And the sooner this happens, the easier it will be to live on. Small troubles that previously seemed insoluble will simply cease to be noticed. And major problems will be perceived not as tragedies, but as another way to express one’s best qualities and gain new experience.