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How to radically change your life? This article contains, on the one hand, our personal qualities and shortcomings, on the other hand, reminders of how much we already have. We are all born with priceless gifts, but unfortunately we can forget about it.

Life is not about staying comfortable and safe. Life is about moving and taking justifiable risks.

It is about finding the way to your soul, in developing your personality, while maintaining integrity and humanity.

We live on this planet to develop and develop the world for the better.

How to change your life? What you need to pay attention to and let go:

1. Temperament and hot temper. Temporary frustration is not a reason to do something stupid. Remember how many people we offended simply because we were not in the mood.
2. Petty grievances. Life is too short to waste it on this.
3. The idea that you are worse than others is not for you. Stop comparing yourself to others. We are all born into different circumstances, and there is nothing wrong with being different from others. The main thing is that you move towards your goal every day and improve yourself.
4. What we believe does not have to be true.. Everything evolves; what was once true is no longer true. Don’t be dead attached to your beliefs, be open to new things. Change can be very difficult and painful, but it is much better than being stuck in one place.
5. Yesterday has passed - what is happening today is more important. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You develop and become better. Dare to take a step forward, do not constantly look back, as you may forget how beautiful the present is.
6. The idea that problems are bad. We need them for our development, either we ourselves find problems and solve them, or problems will begin to find us.
7. Excessive restraint and inaccessibility. It's not illegal to be human. We all need to be more open friend to friend. Stop hiding behind mobile phone or tablet. Smile at people, be interested in them. Get to know the people close to you better.
8. If you think that you are far superior to everyone else, you are deeply mistaken. Don't be arrogant, be grateful for what you have. Everything comes back eventually. Be humble and be kind.
9. Unnecessary things. Think about whether you really need it, don’t pay attention to the trend or price. Think about the value of this item specifically to you.
10. Searching for happiness outside. Listen and find your own inner light. You don't find happiness on the outside, it starts within you. Pay attention to what improves you. Be good. Be conscious. Be someone who makes the world a better place.
11. Hypocrisy and lies. Be honest, otherwise how are you going to earn people's trust. Remember your promises. Be the kind of person you would want to spend time with.
12. Fears that intuition is wrong. It's better to learn from mistakes than to regret what you didn't do. Fear has consumed our hopes and dreams for a long time, don't let it do that anymore. Everything is inherent in a person in order to create and improve the world, only our fear limits our capabilities.
13. Waiting ideal conditions . They will never come, the conditions will never be ideal. You just need to try and evaluate the result, diligently and persistently, doing the best that is possible at the moment.
14. Constant self-criticism. Your suffering will not help anyone. Allow yourself constructive criticism, which may inspire you, but nothing more. Forgive yourself and accept yourself for who you are.
15. People you're not good enough for. Make room for other people to accept you. You won't be alone if you take care of yourself and other people.
16. The desire to do something just to impress people. It's not worth it, do it to make yourself a better person and make the world a more joyful place. Do it because you think it's right.
17. The desire to please everyone. It's impossible to please everyone. If someone doesn't like you, they might just not be the right person for you to spend time with. What others say and think about you is only the result of their personal vision of the world.
18. The thought that it's too late. It's never too late. You set the limits yourself.
19. Procrastination. Stop procrastinating and putting things off until tomorrow. Start working on the things that matter to you.

Little things, we forget them, but these are priceless gifts, the true value of which we can only learn by losing them:

20. If you are reading this, it means you are still alive.. Life priceless gift!
21. Do you have access to the Internet?. You can learn new things and keep abreast of events.
22. You can read and study. This is the greatest opportunity to improve thinking and imagination.
23. You are not hungry or thirsty. You have the opportunity to maintain your body in good condition. Unfortunately, not many people on Earth have this opportunity.
24. You have a roof over your head. You have somewhere to come at night and spend the night.
25. You have people who love and appreciate you.. You have someone to turn to for help.
26. You don't have to survive and fight for your life. If your streets are quiet and no gunshots are heard, you have something to be grateful for.

Something that will help you accept yourself, remembering what love is...

27. Find things you like about yourself. Cultivate Self-Love. Look at yourself in the mirror with kindness and love. If we can find and love something about ourselves, then it will be very easy for us to find kindness and love in the world. Reality is often a reflection of ourselves.
28. Be alone with who you are. Come back to yourself and know yourself.
29. Your time on this planet is precious.. Don't waste it. You shouldn't do something because others are doing it. You don't need permission to do things your way.
30. Keep your distance from those who drag you down. Know your worth! Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Quality is always more important than quantity.
31. Start making the changes you need to make. If you want to see changes in your life, you must do things that you have never done before. And step away from things that drain you.
32. Thank yourself for what you have and who you are.. We don't always get what we want. But there are many people who will never have what you have now.
33. Do something every day that makes you happy. . Every day we make a choice, so why not make this choice in favor of your happiness?
34. Take advantage of new opportunities and ideas. Perhaps this case is exactly what will lead you to your goal. You never know what will open up next
35. Belief in your own abilities. Everything is possible! The main thing is to understand what exactly you want and persistently move towards the goal.
36. Writing your own story is always more interesting than watching other people’s. If you find yourself comparing yourself, then remember that people tend to reveal to the public only the best aspects of their lives, and keep silent about the worst moments.
37. Relax and take things less seriously. What kind of life is this if you fear and think about every step you take?

What you need to start doing for yourself and your happiness.

38. Start filtering out the clutter in your life.. Don't listen to the loudest voice, listen to the truthful one.
39. Start doing right choice . Most of life is the result. Change begins now—from today's choices.
40. Being busy does not mean being productive. Do not confuse movement and progress, employment and real action.
41. Most of the things we worried about never happened. Replace worries with actions.
42. The best way move away from something negative, start moving towards something positive. Replace some actions with others, and another will definitely take the place of one habit.
43. Start doing what is right, not what is easier.. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it should be done.
44. Start comparing yourself to yourself.. The best way to celebrate personal progress is to compare yourself yesterday with today.
45. Start being genuinely happy for others..
46. ​​Be more tolerant of those who think differently. Any point of view can be understood if you try to look at things through the eyes of another person.
47. Start giving without expecting gratitude in return.. People won't always be grateful, but here we're talking about about the long term.
48. Start creating the change you want to see in the world. We all have the ability to change our reality. Never forget this.
49. Re-evaluate the concept of wealth. Some people spend time to earn money. Other people to buy time for themselves. Think about it.
50. Show your loved ones how much they mean to you.. Our close relationships are vital to our happiness, don't forget that. (written about problems with loved ones)
51. Replace the “I have to” focused thought with the “I get” thought.. This way you can start doing a lot of things that you really didn’t want to do before.
52. Don't let one bad moment ruin many good ones.. Don't allow frustrations to develop within you.
53. Start measuring your progress every day, no matter how small or big.. The main thing is that you are moving towards your goal.

How to change your life? Reminders that will change the way you think.

54. Your attitude towards people and situations will change, and that's normal.. Just because you liked something at one time does not mean you will always like it.
55. You can always meet tough things on your way. life lessons . Change is not always pleasant. This will ultimately make you a better person.
56. Those who complain the most achieve the least.. It's not so bad if you tried and didn't succeed, it's worse if you do nothing and complain.
57. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.. You are what you think. You can't change anything if you can't change your thinking.
58. The best thing you can do for others is to improve yourself.. When we are happy, we become for others best friends, the best lovers, the best members of society.
59. You can learn something from everyone you meet.. Our meetings are not accidental. Every meeting brings something. It may not be at all what you expected, but you will need it anyway.
60. If you're feeling weird or alone... Relax, you're not the only one feeling this way.. You are unique, and you are in this world only because you are needed in it.

Important questions you can ask yourself right now:

The questions we ask ourselves now determine what kind of people we will become in the future.

61. What is behind suffering and limitations? If you want to gain advantages in life, you have to sacrifice something. If you want to lose weight, you have to sweat first, if you want to build big muscles - hard months in the gym. For any positive changes in life you have to pay. Are you ready to pay this price?
61. If I continue to do what I am doing today, who will I be in 5 years?
62. What do I spend too much time on and what do I spend too little time on? Maybe it's time to think not about the urgent, but about the important?
63. How am I deceiving myself? Maybe you refuse to believe the truth? Opportunities open up when there is no room for self-deception.
64. What holds me back and throws me back? Too often we let the past dictate what we do today.
65. What do I not want others to know about me? This is a blow to insecurity. Problems and shortcomings are part of every person’s life. And ultimately, confidence comes from understanding that all people have flaws.
66. Does my environment help or harm me? It's better to be alone than in bad company.
67. What is worth smiling about right now? I'm sure there is always a reason to be in a good mood.
68. Hard times don't last forever. Everything changes and everything passes. (see article about that)
69. You are not the center of the universe. Not everything should happen just because you want it to.
70. Today is a priceless gift. You still have many days on Earth, but they are limited. Do the best you can.

And also check for every day.

In conclusion, I would like to say the following.

Don't be afraid to let go of your limitations and inhibitions. Don't be afraid to be disappointed. Don't be afraid to get hurt or get hurt. Understand that just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it should be done. Do what is right in life, not what is easier to do.

Ask yourself about the cost and consequences. Then think about the new opportunities that could arise if you dare to take action. Based on this, make your choice.

Appreciate your freedom and enjoy it. Focus more on being interested rather than engaging. If you think the sun is shining brighter on the other side, it's time to change your perspective, stop comparing, stop complaining and start working hard.

More than the battle is our mind. This is the place where the biggest conflicts happen, the place where half the things that were supposed to happen never happened. Watch your thoughts and don't let bad ideas stay in your mind because they will take away your joy and happiness. It is very important to learn to tell yourself in time that thoughts are not us, they are just guests in our mind.

You can't control everything, but it's foolish to neglect what you can control. You can decide how you spend your time and with whom you associate, with whom you share your life, money and energy. You can choose what you will eat, read and study every day. You can choose your words and actions. You can choose how you are going to respond to unfortunate situations when they arise. You can choose your attitude towards yourself and towards the world.

It often happens that a person seeking to change his life focuses only on certain areas of life and neglects others.
For example, if he is interested in self-discovery and self-realization, he may not think about physical development. If he is interested in his figure or personal life, he may not remember about his career or finances, etc.

But, as practice shows, this approach is a mistake.
In order to achieve results in any area of ​​life, you must not forget about both the entire personal strategy and those specific areas that seem unimportant to you, but in fact play a significant role. This is the only way to solve a specific issue and change your life in general.

If you don't know where to start, start by improving your appearance.

Here's what a famous plastic surgeon and psychiatrist says:

❝When you change a person's face, you almost always change their future. By changing his idea of ​​his appearance, in almost all cases you change the person himself - his individual qualities, behavior - and sometimes even talents and abilities❞

This statement applies not only to a radical remake of oneself through plastic surgery, but also to all positive changes in appearance. Having lost five kilograms or getting a new hairstyle, you begin to perceive yourself differently, feel more confident and attractive.

Analyze your habits

The next point is habits. Our habits are the basis of our character. Remember famous aphorism Aristotle, who is familiar to many from childhood:

❝If you sow a thought, you will reap an action; sow an action, you reap a habit; sow a habit and reap a character; sow character, reap destiny❞.

Habits are patterns of our behavior that control our lives. Are we really going to let them decide everything for us, following their lead?

Method: Carefully analyze each of your habits and their impact on your life. Eliminate those that interfere with your success, replace them with new, healthy habits.

For those who really decided to work on themselves, I offer the Success Diary - a classic diary with applications for achieving success and working on yourself

4. Conditioned reflexes
It was not for nothing that the scientist Pavlov tortured dogs: conditioned reflexes are the basis of the foundations. With this key you can create any habit you need.

Method: Repeated actions with reinforcement develop new skills and habits. When a new skill is consolidated, it will go into the subconscious and you will do everything automatically, unloading your brain for new achievements.
Reward yourself for success or deprive yourself of something if you deviate from your plan to change yourself. Let your new quality be necessary and desirable for you.

5. Eradication
What cannot be converted into a plus, simply eradicate it.

How to identify your negative qualities and how to see yourself from the outside, read the article. There you can download a table of negative human characteristics.

6. Double life
The technique is suitable for developing new character traits and more significant changes in oneself.

Method: Imagine yourself as you want to be. Rehearse new role mentally over and over again. To be more convincing, buy things that will help you get into character and highlight your new qualities. Wear them only for your second life.
Your surroundings are unlikely to immediately accept the new you, so communicate with those who don’t know you! Practice your new qualities on them. How much will they believe in your image? And if something doesn’t work out, you can always change the place and environment and try again.

7. Use your imagination

The experiment proved that if a person daily certain period spends time in front of a target, imagining himself throwing darts at it, his results will improve to the same extent as if he actually threw darts at the target every day.

Mental imagery allows us to “practice” new relationships and character traits that would otherwise be unattainable. Our nervous system unable to distinguish reality from what our imagination vividly depicted. When we imagine ourselves doing something in a special way, this is almost the same as the actual execution. Mental practice helps achieve perfection.

Method: Every day in the morning and before going to bed, mentally imagine yourself as you strive to be. How you speak, how you move, what you wear, how you react to situations. Do this over and over again. This mental picture will have a strong influence on your behavior. And remember, how you see yourself from the inside largely determines how others see you.

8. Shock
If you want to change yourself but still don't find enough motivation to start, let failure be your motivation.

Method: Associate with people who will openly despise you. Use other people's ridicule to your advantage. Prove to them that you can be better, more beautiful, smarter. This method has never failed.

9. Alien
Often we behave like pigs with our loved ones. We are rude, we neglect them and do not respect them at all. Whereas with strangers we are completely different, especially with bosses. If you want to change your behavior, try this method.

Method: imagine in the place of your father or mother a complete stranger to you, whom you want to impress. Treat them like a boss on whom your salary depends. Try to look at them detachedly, as if you are seeing them for the first time.

10. Tune in

Method: change your environment and communicate with the people you want to be like. Adopt their habits, their way of thinking. In every book on achieving success, communication with successful people, how does it work?

11. Cold shower of the “future”
When you really grow up and think about the future, you suddenly realize that it’s time to get rid of many habits and character traits. The thought that soon we will have to build new life with family - sobering. I no longer want to waste money, be unnecessary, or drink all night with friends.

Method: Think about the future and the life you want to have, and you will understand for yourself how to change and what habits to eradicate.

But I want to warn you - Don't take on too much. Innate temperament is difficult to change.

An introvert (a self-absorbed person), of course, can change and become its opposite - an extrovert. But he will very soon get tired of this “role” and will be unhappy, being in the public eye, secretly wanting to be alone with himself and his thoughts. There will be a feeling of emptiness. It arises from a loss of energy, because introverts draw it within themselves, and only spend it in communication with others. It becomes clear that leading such a life for a long time is difficult and exhausting.

Be sure to record your victories and defeats in a Success Diary, which is definitely worth starting if you are focused on getting serious results.

Or maybe you don’t need to change?

Find your circle where you will be accepted for who you are and where you will be happy. Everyone has their own value system and it is quite possible that your dream is to change and become more popular, successful, etc. will not bring the desired joy.

Or sublimate your energy into creativity. How can this incomprehensible Freudian term help us? The fact that we can redirect ourselves, life, and others into creativity, using the protective mechanisms of our psyche.

Leonardo da Vinci, great painter, the scientist and engineer did just that. Whatever he undertook, he brought it to perfection. However, it is reliably known that he had no interest in sex. A similar sublimation can be seen in many creative people. They simply cannot create when they are happy.

Sublimate (redirect) your energy and desires into creativity and new hobbies. Are you a bespectacled person with a bad figure and therefore have difficulties with the opposite sex? There are two ways out - to change by working on yourself: exhausting training plus pickup courses. Or, find your life’s passion and create. We miss your talent so much!

As you change yourself, don’t forget to change the space around you. Tidy up your cluttered apartment and change your wardrobe, how to do it easily and quickly - in Erin Doland's motivating book “Simplify Your Life” ().

Remember: life is a journey, not a destination.

A hackneyed but relevant phrase. Live life to the fullest- feel every day, learn new things, and not sacrifice everything for one goal. Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work out at first. This is fine.

Be honest with yourself and others

Lying drains energy and makes a person unhappy. Just imagine how many lies you need to remember so as not to accidentally spill the beans. What happiness there is here. Besides, if you are not honest with yourself, you cannot grow and develop. And if you lie to others, then trust and intimacy disappear in the relationship.

People tell lies for various reasons. Out of envy, out of reluctance to offend, fear of opening up or entering into... Being honest is difficult, but this is the only way to live life to the fullest.

Learn to accept yourself

We often dwell on past failures and spend too much time thinking about our own. weaknesses. We think about what we don’t like about ourselves, how to change it, and we think that we should become different. Spending your life on such thoughts and events from the past means not noticing the present and being closed to new things in the future. Make a conscious decision to love yourself for who you are. Get rid of the burden of memories and negative thoughts.

Define your values

Having formulated your values, it will be easier for you to deliver life goals, which will not contradict them. Stick to your convictions and don't let others lead you astray. After all, living in accordance with your principles is much more pleasant than constantly following the advice of others.

Stop putting yourself down

It is believed that self-criticism helps to develop, but research How to Stop the Self-Criticism and Feel Better About You proved Negative influence This approach affects both the person himself and his attitude towards others. The stricter you are with yourself, the higher your chances of treating others the same way. Belittling your merits will not help you become a better person and achieve your goals. Be kind to yourself.

Replace negative thoughts installations. For example, instead of “I’m a failure,” tell yourself: “Things didn’t go according to plan. But I will figure out why this happened and will not make similar mistakes in the future. I will find a way to achieve what I want in another way.”

Analyze self-criticism logically. Instead of “I’m stupid, everyone in the group is smarter than me,” think about whether there are objective reasons to think so. Maybe you're just not preparing well enough for your classes. Maybe laziness is to blame, but not intelligence. By analyzing the thought in this way, you will understand what steps you need to take without belittling yourself.

Be flexible

Life is full of changes. Be open to new things and learn to adapt to changes, even if you don't like them at first. See them as an opportunity to get new experience. This positive thinking will help develop flexibility.

Getting fired from Apple was the best thing that ever happened to me. The heavy burden of success was replaced by the carelessness of a beginner, less confident entrepreneur. I was freed to enter one of the most fruitful periods life.

Steve Jobs, American entrepreneur, CEO of Apple

Keep fit

Taking care of your body is another step towards living a full life. You only have one, and it's important to make sure it's healthy. It's hard to live rich life when it hurts here and stings there.

Eat right. Eat as many fruits, vegetables, and complex carbohydrates as possible. Try to avoid foods high in sugar, but still treat yourself to a piece of pie or a glass of wine from time to time.

Play sports. Regular exercise will help you feel healthier and happier.

Stop forcing yourself

People often force themselves to do things that are at odds with their values ​​and desires. Compulsion causes irritation, frustration and sadness. If you get rid of this, then living life to the fullest will become easier.

As soon as “I should” appears in your thoughts, think about why you think so. For example, “I need to lose weight.” This may be the advice of a doctor or the desire of a person with a different perception of beauty. In the first case, changes are really necessary, in the second they can even be dangerous. Do only what is important to you, not what others demand.

Method 2. Go your own way

Leave your comfort zone

The more often you perform unusual actions, the higher your Anxiety Can Bring Out the Best your performance. The more difficult the tasks you set for yourself, the faster you get used to new things and the calmer you perceive them. life difficulties. Getting out of your comfort zone helps you become more flexible, and we've already found out how important that is.

Start small. Go to a place you know nothing about. Go on a spontaneous trip or do something at work that you haven't done before.

Be realistic

Set goals according to your strengths, taking into account your skills and... Strive for what is important to you and don't compete with others. Achieving what you want should depend only on your needs, but not on the desire to show off or prove something to someone.

Be prepared for something to go wrong

When a person lives life to the fullest, he takes risks. He makes decisions that have consequences. And sometimes they may not turn out as planned. It is important to understand that life is unpredictable and to be calm about the unexpected. The ability to be prepared for anything makes it possible to be one step ahead and calculate options for the development of events.

Look for opportunities to learn

Don't sit still and let life just take its course. Be active, learn new things, make your brain work. Analyze your experience and the experience of other people. This will help you be calmer difficult situations and will allow you to confidently move forward.

Know how to thank

Gratitude is not just a feeling - it is a lifestyle. It will help you overcome the traumas of the past, if you consider them not as pain, but as a valuable experience, and be grateful to life for it. It will strengthen relationships with loved ones, and without them it is extremely difficult to live a full life.

Tell family, friends and others important people how glad you are that you have them. Share gratitude, don’t be afraid to express it, and life will be filled with pleasure and harmony.

Appreciate every moment and don't focus on the bad. Appreciate the beauty of everyday life, be grateful to life even for the little things: a beautiful sunset, good weather and delicious coffee.

The more pleasant little things you notice, the better life will become.

Keep a diary

Try not just to record the events that happened, but to analyze them. How did you react, why did it happen, how did you feel then and now, and what would you do if this situation happened again? All this will show what is going well in life, and what needs more work.

Laugh

Laughter is the best medicine. It lowers stress hormone levels and improves mood. Plus it's contagious. If you laugh, others will laugh too, and this is the easiest way to create emotional and social connections.

Don't chase after material things

From large quantity things won't make you happier. Don't buy impulsively or try to relieve stress through shopping. Buy only what you really need.

If you have already accumulated a lot of useless things, donate them to charity. Get rid of everything you don't like and start living free from material assets life.

A person picks up the emotions of others as easily as catching a cold. If you spend the day with happy people, you will start to feel better. If you communicate with those who are gloomy and dissatisfied with life, then this will also affect your mood. Only negative. Therefore, it is important not to waste time on toxic people.

Surround yourself with those who care about you, who respect you and others.

But that doesn't mean your friends and family can't give you constructive criticism. Sometimes you still need someone to point out mistakes. But it is important to feel that people do this with kindness, respect and care. That they actually help you become a better person.

Discuss your needs

Confidently express your thoughts and needs, but remember that those around you also have desires that need to be heard. Be open and honest, but don't blame or judge people.

It's good to honestly tell the person that he hurt you. Explain what exactly bothered you. It is bad to accuse him of inhumanity without a specific explanation of the reason.

To prevent people from interpreting your words as accusations, always say “I.” For example, “I felt like my needs weren’t important when you didn’t pick me up from work” instead of “You didn’t even pick me up from work, you don’t care about me.”

Instead of judging the actions of others, try to understand why they did it. Ask them to tell you more about the reasons, find out someone else’s point of view. If you still don’t agree with the opinion, tell us why and offer an alternative.

Be selfless

Often the thought that we deserve more prevents us from moving forward. Giving, but not receiving in return, we are in people, life, justice. It's hard to live life to the fullest when your head is so dark. Therefore, it is important to share love, kindness, warmth and care selflessly.

But this does not mean that you can allow your feet to be wiped on you. Stop any attempts to take advantage of your good attitude.

Forgive yourself and others

It's hard, but good for the soul. By forgiving, you will free yourself from stress, let go of accumulated negativity and feel lightness. Learn to forgive people despite their behavior, and this will help mental wounds heal.

It is important to forgive not only others, but also yourself. Stop thinking about mistakes and blaming yourself for what you did. The past cannot be changed. Use this experience as an opportunity to become a better person. Show yourself the same compassion you show others.

Accept people as they are

It can be difficult to communicate with someone who is so different from us. But don't try to change it and adjust it to suit yourself. Remember that every person is a unique individual who can teach you something new. Be kind and polite in any company. Enjoy the company of other people. Treat everyone the way you would like to be treated.

Most people don't like something in their life; something goes wrong, something doesn’t go well, and many people have a question: “ How"; what is needed for this, where to start, and is it even possible? change your life???
If you read the article to the end and think a little, you will understand that everyone, if desired, can change your life for the better, and from “frogs turn into princes (princesses).”

The image, of course, is taken from fairy tales(for example, about Cinderella), but in fact, anyone can make themselves happy. No miracles and magic, no magic.

How to change your life

Because our life is not only the entire period from birth to death, but also any other moment, situation, moment of life, and all life consists of these situations, then in order to change your life for the better, you need to change short life moments, which, like bricks, build the entire edifice of our lives...

Those. a person's happy or unhappy life consists of happy or unhappy life situations... moments, instants... from them we must begin to change our lives.

How to change your life for the better - from frogs to princesses (princes)

If you have determined for yourself that you are a loser (“frog”), you are unlucky in life and you are chronically unhappy... especially if your unsuccessful situations and unhappy moments in life are repeated, i.e. if your thoughts, feelings and emotions, behavior are approximately the same in similar situations, then you have a life scenario programmed in childhood.

And in order to determine and move from “frogs” to “princes” (“princesses”), you need to determine your scenario and change it...

How to change your life - where to start

And you understand, in order to change your life and get rid of loneliness, you need to start relationships, close relationships (in the emotional and psychological sense). But your internal scenario, subconscious attitudes, your deepest beliefs, which cause various negative emotions, including fears and anxieties, do not allow you to do this.

Then you take one of three similar situations, for example - “I can’t come up to meet you because I’m afraid or embarrassed”..., and work them out in your imagination, in fantasy, visualization... (you can use relaxation methods to help: psychotraining according to Silva or self-hypnosis techniques).

Imagine in your imagination, very brightly and colorfully, how you, for example, are going to come up to meet someone - at first everything goes well, good mood and the desire to act, and then... something clicked... and you were scared or shy, and, accordingly, did not approach the person...

Now, re-watch this video in your head, but not all of it, but until the moment of “click” - remember this feeling of clicking...

Then, take another similar situation, when you couldn’t get to know each other because of fear and embarrassment, for example... this time they approached you, but you were so scared that you closed in on yourself and couldn’t say anything intelligible... and with this behavior they scared you away person... Also, play the film in your head until it “clicks” - it’s about the same as in the first situation - remember it...

Take another situation from life..."wind up" the video until it "clicks" - remember...

Return to the first situation and watch your “inner movie” until the “click” moment, but after that come up with a new ending with a new emotion, for example, how great everything turned out for you - record it in your memory new emotion after the “click”... Make two more new endings to this situation.

Then, do the same with the other two situations from your life - in total you will get 9 new “movies” (three for each situation) ...

If you feel a real new emotion, for example joy, living it in fantasy (like actors using the Stanislavsky method), and fix it in memory, then you will only have to complete this work of changing your life in reality...

Now, your switch (anchor, or “click”) will automatically trigger a new good emotion, which will give you the opportunity to make acquaintances and stop feeling lonely...

After several repetitions - almost like a reflex in Pavlov's dog - your life scenario of loneliness will be replaced by a new, successful scenario, i.e. You can change your life for the better…