Menu for a funeral meal or what to cook for a funeral. Days of special remembrance of the deceased

The Christian Church teaches us that man, who was once created immortal, due to the original sin of Adam and Eve, lost this greatest gift. Since then, he has become corruptible and, having walked the path of life allotted to him by the Lord, leaves the earthly world, taking with him the burden of sins committed, but not atoned for by repentance. Therefore, our prayers and rituals are extremely important for him to find eternal peace. How the deceased are remembered on the anniversary of death (one year after death) will be discussed in this article.

Commemorations of the deceased preceding the anniversary of death

After a person’s heart has stopped beating and he has appeared before the gates of eternity, the Orthodox Church prescribes his threefold commemoration. It takes place on the third, ninth and fortieth day after death. It is necessary to briefly mention them, because otherwise the story about how to remember the deceased on the anniversary of death will be incomplete.

The commemoration of the deceased on the third day is performed in commemoration of the three-day resurrection of our Savior Jesus Christ. It is generally accepted that for the first two days after parting with the body, the soul, accompanied by angels, still wanders near places dear to it from earthly memories. On the third day, the angels take her to heaven to worship the Almighty. Thus, the day of the first appearance before the Lord is the beginning of the memorial cycle, the completion of which will be the anniversary of death. How to remember according to church custom on this still distant day will be described below.

The next rite is performed on the ninth day, symbolizing the nine ranks of angels interceding with the Lord for the repose of the soul of His deceased servant. The Church teaches that after the third day the soul leaves the earthly world and is transported by angels to the heavenly abodes, which it contemplates for six days.

After this, she performs a second worship of the Lord and is thrown into hell, where she will remain until the fortieth day, continuously contemplating the torment endured by unrepentant sinners. And only after the soul has been shown the bliss of the righteous and the suffering of the wicked, it appears before the Almighty, who, based on earthly affairs, determines its place of stay until the Last Judgment.

The third, ninth, and especially the fortieth day are as important as the anniversary of death. How to remember the deceased at these stages of his stay in the afterlife is a topic for a special conversation, but we will turn to the ritual performed a year after his death.

Daily prayer for the departed

From time immemorial, among Orthodox people there has been a pious custom of commemorating in church on the anniversary of the death of everyone who has passed away, regardless of how many years have passed since that sad day. However, this does not eliminate the need to say several funeral prayers at home while reading the morning and evening prayer rules, and today an increasing number of people observe this church instruction, along with the texts contained in them. You can find them on the pages of an ordinary Orthodox Prayer Book.

The time that has passed since the death of a person close to us dulls the pain of the loss suffered, but despite this, it is necessary to remember how necessary memorial prayers are for him beyond the threshold of eternity, especially on the day when the anniversary of death has arrived. How to remember the deceased in order to help his soul free himself from the burden of sins? Many church fathers, who gained fame with their theological works, wrote about this.

Preliminary cleansing of your own soul

If you turn to their works, then in most of them you can see how much importance the authors attach to the mental and physical purity of those who intend with their prayers to alleviate the posthumous fate of people close to them. In other words, before you begin to pray for the forgiveness of other people's sins, you need to repent of your own. Everyone knows that the prayer of a righteous person is heard more often than the requests of one who is mired in sin.

In addition, speaking about how to properly commemorate on the anniversary of death, the holy fathers strongly recommend starting preparations for this important matter with fasting, even if it is short-term. One - maximum two days of abstaining from fast food - meat, fish and dairy products, will help, having overcome the carnal and sometimes sinful aspirations so inherent in human nature, to direct thoughts towards the upcoming prayerful communication with God. Please note that fasting in this case is not a mandatory requirement, but is only recommended as a proven means of cleansing one’s own soul and body.

This will help our prayers for forgiveness of the sins of a loved one to be heard and find grace. The Church teaches that beyond the threshold of death it will be too late to repent of what was done during life, and only those remaining on earth are able to beg God to ease the fate of the deceased.

Continuing the conversation about how to properly commemorate the deceased on the anniversary of death, one cannot help but recall the custom of ordering regular commemoration of the deceased in the church for forty days in advance of this date. This ritual is called Sorokoust and dates back to the first centuries of the establishment of Christianity in Rus'. In this case, it serves as a preparatory stage for the main actions coming on the day of remembrance.

Where to start a church commemoration?

Despite the importance of home prayers, the main importance is still attached to the church service on the day when the anniversary of death occurs. How to remember the deceased in the temple of God should be learned in advance from the priest, who will help perform this rite in full accordance with the traditions of the Orthodox Church. We will focus only on some generally accepted rules.

Usually, before the start of the liturgy, a note with the name of the deceased is given for his commemoration in the altar. By the way, the names of other close people who left this world at different times can be entered into it. They all also need prayer support. In addition, on the day of the anniversary of death, as at any other time, it would be very appropriate to order a memorial service for the deceased.

What is a memorial service?

Since this funeral rite, accepted in Russian Orthodoxy for a long time, has a special meaning, then continuing the conversation about how to remember the deceased on the anniversary of death, it is worth dwelling on it in more detail. According to the rules set out in the Trebnik - a liturgical book regulating the procedure for performing the sacraments and other sacred rites, a memorial service can be held both in the church and in the house of the deceased, where a priest is invited for this purpose, as well as in a cemetery or in the place where life was cut short loved one. The memorial service is very close in structure to the funeral service. The only difference is that in this case several prayers are excluded from it.

Kolivo, prosphora and alms are integral parts of the ritual

In addition, the Trebnik, which indicates how the deceased are commemorated on the anniversary of death at home, in the cemetery and in the temple, is prescribed, at the end of the church ceremony, to place on the eve - a small rectangular table with a crucifix, where funeral candles usually burn - a dish filled with kutya - porridge , made from whole wheat grains and drizzled with honey. According to church tradition, it is called koliv. When leaving the church, you should take one or more prosphoras with you and eat them at home on an empty stomach before the funeral meal begins.

Regardless of whether the memorial service was performed in a church, or the relatives of the deceased limited themselves to a modest home ritual, it is highly recommended on this day, as on any other, to distribute alms to those whom the vicissitudes of life forced with an outstretched hand to seek food for themselves. This humanly good deed is also the fulfillment of one of God’s main commandments, which prescribes love for neighbors and help to everyone who needs it. It should be strictly observed throughout life, and not just on the day when someone’s death anniversary occurs.

How to remember a loved one in a cemetery?

When paying tribute to the memory of a loved one, it is also customary to visit his grave on the anniversary of his death. It is there that we most acutely feel the irreplaceability of the loss we have suffered. It is highly advisable to come to the cemetery a few days before and check whether the tombstone, cross and fence are in proper order. If something needs to be repaired or painted, it should be done immediately, and in any case, the cleaning should be done. In autumn, sweep away fallen leaves from the grave, in winter, remove snow, and in spring and summer, it is advisable to plant living seedlings.

On the anniversary of your death, you can visit the cemetery both before and after going to church. There are no rigid guidelines in this case, and everyone can do what is most convenient for them. The only exceptions can be those cases when the relatives of the deceased want a priest to serve the litiya at the grave. Usually there are churches in the territory of cemeteries where you can make such a request, and it is better to do this in advance, since the priest may have other requests on that day.

Ritual traditions that regulate the order of how to correctly remember the deceased on the anniversary of death allow for the performance of all appropriate actions without the participation of a priest. In this case, one of those present, and among them, as a rule, there are the closest relatives and friends of the deceased, can read the funeral prayers himself. They will be especially beneficial if those present begin to do this one by one. An integral part of visiting a grave is also the laying of fresh or artificial flowers and wreaths.

Funeral meals at the grave and at home

After reading the prayers, it is time for a short memorial meal, served right at the grave. The tradition of the Orthodox Church prescribes eating pancakes, jelly, and also kutya, which was discussed above. You can also add fruits and homemade cakes to this simple menu.

Unfortunately, during the Soviet period, when the dominance of atheistic ideology tore people away from their original church customs, standards were developed that were completely alien to true piety. One of them was the tradition of drinking alcoholic beverages at the grave, and often simply getting drunk. We can say with complete confidence that this is fundamentally contrary to church rules, and it does not matter whether the grave is visited on an ordinary day or the anniversary of death.

On the same day, it is customary to commemorate the deceased at a home meal, to which relatives are invited, as well as those who knew and loved him during his lifetime. Often one of the participants in the feast is a priest. Sometimes they rent space in a cafe or restaurant for this purpose. In order for the wake to take place in accordance with established tradition, a number of simple rules should be followed, outlined below.

The beginning of a home meal, like the one served in the cemetery, should be preceded by the same memorial prayer for the deceased. If a priest is invited to the house, then he reads, if not, then one of the relatives or several people in turn. Prayer in this case is important both for the repose of the soul of the deceased and for setting those present in a solemn mood appropriate to the given moment.

Features of the funeral table

It is quite natural that every housewife tries to set the richest possible table, replete with various dishes, and thereby please the tastes of all those present. However, it should be taken into account that the church calendar, in addition to fasting days, that is, those on which there are no restrictions on the list of foods eaten, also provides for fasts, both one-day and multi-day.

Since the funeral itself is part of the Orthodox tradition, the meal menu must meet the requirements set by the church for the day on which the anniversary of the death falls. How to remember the deceased only with Lenten treats is a question that every housewife decides independently.

It is important to take into account that no matter how richly the table is set, the meal should begin with the traditional eating of the same kutya. This custom has a very specific meaning. Wheat or any other grains from which it is prepared symbolize the resurrection of the soul, and honey poured on top is the pleasure that awaits the righteous in eternal life.

How to maintain proper atmosphere at the table

Another important point related to home meals is the correct choice of alcoholic beverages. If their use in a cemetery is inappropriate, as discussed above, then at a home table or in a restaurant it is permissible. However, so that the memory of a dear person and his death anniversary are not overshadowed, you should remember the day of his death by taking into account the advice outlined below. This will help avoid unpleasant situations that often arise as a result of excessive libations.

To be on the safe side, it is not recommended to place strong 40-degree drinks on the table. It is better to give preference to church Cahors or some light wines. At the same time, it is necessary to ensure that even their use does not go beyond what is reasonable. Otherwise, a memorial meal can easily turn into an ordinary banquet, during which memories of the deceased will give way to laughter and fun that are inappropriate in this setting.

Scandals, swearing and showdowns are extremely unacceptable at the funeral table. It is advisable that during the entire dinner the conversation is only about the deceased, remembering various episodes from his life, and also talking about everything that he did good to people.

You can invite guests to view photographs of the deceased in the house or a video of him. Even if the deceased was not always distinguished by worthy behavior, the bad things on this day should be forgotten. Instead, the emphasis should be on all the good things he left behind.

Two more important questions

We must not lose sight of this very significant question: what to do if the anniversary of death coincides with any of the major church holidays? How to remember - before or after, if memorial prayers are not accepted on the day of the holiday itself (for example, on Easter)? In this case, the ceremony is postponed to the next weekend or other convenient day. But even in this case, one should go to church, confess, take communion, light a candle for the repose of the soul and give alms precisely on the anniversary of death.

There is another important problem that the death anniversary (1 year) poses to the relatives of the deceased, when they have to remember people who are not baptized or of other faiths, or even suicides. Is it even possible to pray for them, and if this is permissible, then how to do it correctly?

The answer can be found in the letter of the Apostle Paul to the Colossians, where he says that for Christ “there is neither Greek, nor Jew, nor barbarian, nor Scythian...”, but all are equal for the coming Kingdom of God. Therefore, you can and should pray for all people, since for every deceased, an important stage of his stay in the afterlife is the anniversary of death. To remember earlier or later depends on the calendar date, as discussed above.

The only thing that should be taken into account is the established rule of submitting memorial notes to churches only with the names of those who underwent baptism during their lifetime and did not burden themselves with the sin of suicide. For all others, you need to pray for yourself, in church and at home, in the cemetery, as well as in the place where death cut short the days of their life. One must ask the Lord to grant remission of the sins they have committed and to rest their souls in the Kingdom of Heaven.

The death of a loved one is a great grief. But, unfortunately, it cannot be avoided. If a dear person dies, then loved ones have many questions. Where to bury? How to think through the menu correctly? Is a canteen or cafe better suited for such an event? And this is not a complete list of questions. Today we will talk specifically about the funeral.

Such a meal is not just a meal, but a ritual during which loved ones remember the deceased and his good deeds. During this event, people read a prayer addressed to God. They ask to forgive the deceased all his sins. Of course, the funeral dinner must be properly thought out, the menu of which must be compiled correctly. To make it easier for you to decide on the list of dishes, we will tell you what you need to prepare for this event and why.

Principles of a funeral dinner

Lunch itself should be simple. Its main goal is to maintain the physical and mental strength of those who came to remember the deceased. Everything must be prepared from fresh ingredients. This is how a funeral dinner should be. Its menu can be varied. It all depends on the traditions of the family, wealth, as well as the preferences of the people who come to remember. Although, of course, guests are not traditionally invited, they come themselves.

A funeral dinner is not a feast during which those who come need to be fed to their fullest. The purpose of the wake is to satisfy the guests, thank them for their participation, remember the deceased, and pray for his soul. Here, as you understand, the main thing is not food, but people - dead and living, who were united by the grief of parting.

Planning a funeral dinner

We will describe the menu a little later, now we will look at the main dishes that should be at this lunch. Firstly, (the second option is kolivo). What it is? It is cooked from grains (rice, barley and others), sweetened with honey and raisins. This dish is consecrated at a memorial service. Grain here is a symbol of the resurrection of the soul, and honey and raisins denote spiritual sweetness.

What do you need?

The list of products is small:

0.5 kilograms of rice;
200 grams of dried apricots;
three tbsp. l. honey;
nuts (optional);
200 grams of raisins;
1 liters of water (for soaking).

How is the dish prepared? Soak the grains in water overnight or for several hours. This is necessary so that the porridge turns out crumbly. You need to cook until done. Towards the end, add honey diluted with water, as well as raisins and dried apricots. This is how kutya turns out.

Borsch

This is another must-try dish. For five liters of water we will need:

700 grams of meat on the bone (beef is best);
three potatoes;
two onions;
one beet (small);
three tomatoes;
one bell pepper (it is best to use red or green);
one cabbage;
a few black peppercorns;
greenery;
salt.

Preparing borscht for a funeral dinner

For this dish, first prepare a broth from meat on the bone (cook for two hours). Then you need to add chopped potatoes. Then take a frying pan, pour oil into it, place it on the stove, pour finely chopped onion into it. After about three minutes, add carrots and beets (also chopped, of course) to the pan. If you treat beets this way, they will be able to retain their color.

The carrots will take on a bright, orange hue. Vegetables need to be simmered in a frying pan until they become soft. Remember that carrots, onions and beets retain their flavor and most vitamins when cooked over high heat. Then pour the contents of the frying pan into the broth, boil everything a little, add shredded cabbage, bay leaves, a few black peppercorns, chopped tomatoes and sweet peppers.

Cook for another 15 minutes. Then you need to taste the dish and add salt. After which you can turn off the heat and remove the borscht from the stove. The dish should be served hot, with sour cream. You can sprinkle with herbs.

Sweet

You can buy pies, or you can bake them yourself. We offer a recipe for banana puffs. What do you need?

packaging of finished dough (500 g);
bananas (200-300 grams);
powdered sugar (to taste).

Preparing sweets for the funeral

Take the prepared puff pastry. Let it thaw, then roll it out. Then take a knife and draw rectangles with it. Place banana filling on them (fruit cut into small pieces). Then bring the edges of the dough together so that the filling is completely enclosed. Next, pin the products a little. Bake in an oven preheated to 220 degrees for about fifteen minutes. The products should be browned. Sprinkle the finished puff pastries with powdered sugar.

Compote

For preparation, you can use both fresh and frozen fruits. Compote should not be sweet or too sour. How to cook? Place a five-liter pot of water on the fire, let it boil, add fruit (about a 1-liter filled jar). Then add sugar (to taste) and cook until tender (about an hour).

The first menu option for thirty people

Now let's talk about what a funeral dinner should be like. The menu after the funeral may vary. We offer ours:

If you are hosting a memorial dinner for the year, this menu would be perfect for the event. Kutya, however, can be removed from the list. It is a mandatory dish only at wakes after funerals. And then - as you wish.

Second menu option for 12 people

Now let’s look at a sample menu for a funeral lunch in a cafe or at home (for forty days). So, the list of products:

fish fried in batter (two kilograms);
mashed potatoes (2.5-3 kilograms);
Olivier salad (two kilograms);
cutlets (12 pieces, approximately 1.2 kg of minced meat);
sandwiches with red fish or sprats;
pies with cabbage or potatoes (12-15 pieces);
pickled cucumbers and tomatoes (about 1 kg);
5 liters of liquid (water + juices + compote)
candies and sweet pies (optional).

If you plan to hold another memorial dinner later, the menu for six months, for example, could be the same. Although, of course, you can adjust the list of dishes at your discretion.

Lean

As you think through everything, pay attention to whether the commemoration falls during the post. If the answer is yes, then the funeral dinner (menu) needs to be adjusted. A Lenten set of dishes will not only be appropriate. but even necessary. What to prepare for such a funeral? How to adjust the usual menu, making it lean? Now let's make an approximate list of foods:

uzvar;
lean borscht;
Kutya;
Lenten pies;
potatoes with mushrooms;
cabbage or carrot cutlets;
vegetable salad (cabbage, tomatoes, cucumbers);
the vinaigrette.

Alcohol

We described in detail how to properly think through a funeral dinner, we also discussed its menu. Now let's touch on another important topic. “Which one?” - you ask. Should you drink alcohol during a funeral? There is no clear answer to this question. Some priests believe that during the funeral dinner it is possible to drink a little red wine. The Church condemns the consumption of alcoholic beverages during such a ceremony. Therefore, here you must decide for yourself whether you need alcohol at the funeral dinner or not.

Conclusion

Now you know how to make a funeral dinner correctly. We reviewed the menu in detail. We have offered you a couple of options for approximate lists of dishes for a funeral. We hope that our tips helped you decide on the choice of food for such a lunch.

Days of commemoration: 9, 40 days and 1 year after death. All Souls' Days and saints Orthodox. Parents' Saturday. Funeral service in Lent. Wake on the day of the funeral.

Days of remembrance of the dead among the Orthodox

Remembering a person who has passed away is a kind of mission, something obligatory, but at the same time performed without coercion - in memory of a loved one who is not around, but who remains forever in the hearts of people who remember him.

It is customary to remember the deceased on the day of the funeral, which according to Christian tradition are on the third day after death, on ninth And fortieth days, and also after a year after the loss.

Funerals on the 3rd and 9th day after death

Memorial Day after the funeral is very important. Those gathered to see off the deceased on his final journey offer prayers to God for the reassurance of his soul. On this day it is customary to cover large funeral table(you can find out what it should be like on the page “”) and have a leisurely meal, during which those present are given the opportunity to express their grief and say a few warm words about the departed person. How to issue an invitation to a wake - read the article. Read about how to formulate your thoughts at a wake and what words to choose on the “” page.

The wake on the ninth day is best held in a small circle- with family and friends, - reading prayers and resurrecting in memory episodes of the deceased’s life that characterize him from the best sides. On this day, you can visit the grave of the deceased, refresh the flowers and once again mentally “talk” and say goodbye to your loved one.

40 days and 1 year (anniversary)

Funeral for 40 days (or forties) are no less significant than the events held on the day of the funeral. According to Orthodox beliefs, on the forties the soul of a departed person appears before God and its fate is decided, where it will go - to heaven or hell. On this day, relatives and friends should prepare large funeral table and invite everyone who knew the deceased and would like to remember him. On the forties, it is customary to visit the grave of the deceased and read prayers for the repose of his soul.

Memorial service for the departed

Through one year after death it is not necessary to hold a wake for a large number of people, it is enough to gather together at the family table and honor the memory of the deceased person. At the same time, on the anniversary of death one should visit the grave of the deceased and, if necessary, restore order there. A year after the sad event experienced, you can plant flowers, pine needles on the grave, tint the fence, or, if the monument was temporary, replace it with a permanent granite or marble monument.

Do I need to go to church for a funeral?

Funerals for 3, 9, 40 days, as well as 1 year later they assume Orthodox Christians holding church services. When visiting the temple, relatives of the deceased light candles, read prayers and organize memorial services. But let's add that this can be taken care of not only on memorial days, but also on ordinary days. So, you can light a candle and pray in church if something is bothering you and feelings about the departed person come flooding back again. You can offer prayers in the temple on the birthday of the deceased, on the day on which his name day fell, and at any other time whenever you want it. You can perform prayers on memorial days at home yourself or by inviting a clergyman.

Why do we need to pray for the dead?

And finally. Remembrance days should be met and seen off in a good mood, without holding a grudge against anyone, especially against the deceased person. During the funeral, it is also customary to distribute alms to those in need and treat funeral dishes to everyone who surrounds you on this day - neighbors, colleagues, friends.

In the twenty-first century, wakes are more reminiscent of pagan funeral feasts, which were held by the ancient Slavs, who hoped that the richer and more magnificent the farewell to the deceased, the better he would live in another world. There were considerations of vanity, prestige, the financial condition of the relatives of the deceased, as well as ignorance of Orthodox traditions in this action.

Funerals on days 9 and 40 are very important. According to Orthodox canons, until the 9th day after death, angels show the soul Paradise, and after that they lead the soul to God, and this is how the showing of Paradise to the soul ends. After this, until the 40th day, the soul is shown hell, where, beholding the torment of sinners condemned to eternal torment, it is horrified and “cries bitterly for its deeds.”

Compliance with the norms in the Orthodox funeral meal requires that before it begins, one of the loved ones reads the 17th kathisma from the Psalter in front of a lit lamp or candle. Immediately before eating, read “Our Father...”

Kutya and funeral pancakes are required on the table.

Kutya

Traditional kutya is made from wheat grains, which are washed and soaked for several hours (or overnight), then boiled until tender. Boiled grains are mixed with honey, raisins, poppy seeds to taste. Honey can first be diluted in water in a ratio of 1/2 and wheat grains can be boiled in the solution, then the solution can be drained. Kutya from rice is prepared in the same way. Boil fluffy rice, then add diluted honey or sugar and raisins (washed, scalded and dried).

Butter pancakes

4 cups flour, 4 cups milk, 3 eggs, 100 g cream, 1 tbsp. spoon of sugar, 25-30 g of yeast, 2 tbsp. tablespoons butter, salt to taste. Pour two glasses of flour into an enamel pan, pour in two glasses of warm milk, after diluting the yeast in it, stir everything well and put in a warm place. When the dough has risen, add the remaining warm milk and flour to it and put it in a warm place again. When it rises again, add beaten egg yolks, sugar, salt, melted butter. Mix well, add whipped cream and egg whites and mix again. Place the dough in a warm place for 15-20 minutes. After this, bake pancakes.

Sample dishes for a funeral meal:

Snacks and salads

Ham rolls with cheese and garlic

Compound
ham (preferably sliced) - 300 g,
processed cheese - 2 pcs (200 g) or hard cheese,
eggs (hard-boiled) - 3 pcs.
garlic - 2 cloves,
greenery,
mayonnaise

Preparation

Cut the ham (if not sliced) into thin slices
Separate the yolks from the whites of boiled eggs.
Grate the whites on a coarse grater.
Grate the yolks on a fine grater into another bowl.
Grate the processed cheese on a coarse grater.
Wash the greens, dry and finely chop.

Combine grated cheese, egg whites, herbs and garlic. Add mayonnaise and mix the filling well.
Place 1 dessert or tablespoon of filling on the edge of a slice of ham.
And roll it up.
Dip each roll in mayonnaise on both ends and roll in grated yolks.
Place the rolls on a platter lined with lettuce leaves and garnish with herbs.

Tomatoes stuffed with fish salad

Compound
tomatoes - 5-6 pcs,
eggs - 5 pcs,
canned fish in oil - 1 can (200 g),
greenery,
salt pepper

Preparation

Wash the tomatoes. Cut off the tops of the tomatoes and carefully scoop out the pulp with a teaspoon and place it separately.
Boil the eggs and grate them on a coarse grater (you can chop them finely), mix with the tomato pulp.
Mash the canned fish with a fork and season with mayonnaise (you can add a little finely grated cheese).
Salt, pepper and add herbs. Combine eggs and mashed canned food and mix well.
Salt the inside of the tomatoes and carefully fill with the filling with a teaspoon.
Place the finished tomatoes on a plate and garnish with herbs. You can place small handfuls of finely grated cheese on top of the tomatoes or garnish with green peas.

Eggplant appetizer with tomatoes and garlic

Compound
eggplants - 2 pcs.
tomatoes - 4-5 pcs,
garlic - 2-3 cloves,
cilantro or parsley,

salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the eggplants, dry and cut into circles, 0.5-0.7 mm thick.
Wash the tomatoes, dry and cut into circles.

Peel the garlic and pass through a garlic press or crush a clove of garlic, pressing it with the flat side of a wide knife, then chop finely.
Lightly salt and pepper the eggplant mugs.
Place the eggplants in a frying pan heated with vegetable oil and fry over medium heat for 3-4 minutes (you should get a golden brown crust).
Turn the eggplants over and fry for another 3-4 minutes until done.
The fried mugs can be placed on a paper napkin to absorb excess oil.
Place the eggplants on a dish, alternating with tomato slices, sprinkle with garlic and herbs.
* This dish can be stored for several days in the refrigerator if you put it in a small saucepan in layers: eggplants, put tomato slices on top, sprinkle with salt, pepper, chopped garlic and herbs. Thus, continue to lay out vegetables, alternating layers. The eggplants will be soaked in tomato juice, and the dish will be even tastier.

Sandwiches with sprats

Compound
half a white loaf
sprats (canned in oil) - 1 can
mayonnaise,
garlic - 1-2 cloves
pickled cucumbers - 2-3 pcs (you can use lemon instead of cucumbers),
greenery

Preparation

Cut the loaf into slices and fry each slice on both sides in vegetable oil.
Rub the fried loaf slices with garlic.
Grease each slice with mayonnaise and add a slice of pickled cucumber or a thin slice of lemon.

* you can not rub each piece of loaf with garlic, but mix the garlic with mayonnaise, and then spread the slices of bread with this garlic mayonnaise
Place one or two sprouts on top and decorate with herbs.

Beetroot salad with garlic

Compound
beets - 2 pcs.,
garlic - 2 cloves,
cheese - 70-100 g,
mayonnaise,
salt,
walnuts, raisins or prunes - optional

Preparation

Wash the beets (do not peel), wrap each one in foil and bake in the oven at 180° ~60-80 minutes (depending on the size of the beets) or boil until tender.
Peel the boiled beets and grate them on a coarse grater.

Grate the cheese.
In a bowl, combine beets, garlic and cheese.
Season the salad with mayonnaise, add salt to taste and transfer to a salad bowl.

* If desired, you can add chopped walnuts, raisins or steamed and finely chopped prunes to the salad

Vegetable salad

Compound
bell pepper - 1 piece,
tomatoes - 2 pcs,
cucumbers - 1 piece,
canned corn,
vegetable oil,
salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the vegetables. Remove the skin from the cucumbers and cut into small cubes. Cut the tomato into cubes too. Place tomatoes and cucumbers in a salad bowl, add diced red bell pepper and canned corn. Season the salad with salt and pepper to taste, mix well and season with vegetable oil.

Salad “Spring freshness”

Compound
cucumber - 1 piece,
tomatoes - 1-2 pcs,
radishes - 4 pcs.
dill greens,
granular cottage cheese - 1 tablespoon,
natural yogurt - 1-2 tablespoons,
salt

Preparation

Wash and dry the vegetables.
Using a sharp knife, cut off the skin of the tomato and set it aside for rose decoration. Cut the tomatoes into strips.
Cut the cucumber into strips.
Cut the radishes into half circles or small slices.
Chop the greens.
Place the vegetables in a salad bowl, add salt and mix.
Add a little grainy cottage cheese to the salad and season with natural yogurt or sour cream.
The salad is prepared immediately before serving.

Vinaigrette with herring

Compound
herring - 1 pc.
potatoes - 2-3 pcs.
beets - 1 pc.
carrots - 1 pc.
onion head - 1 pc.
pickled cucumbers - 2 pcs.
vinegar - to taste
salt
pepper
green salad leaves.

Soak the herring in strong tea, separate the fillets from the bones, and cut into small pieces. Boil potatoes, beets, carrots, cool, peel, cut into small cubes. Finely chop the cucumbers. Combine all ingredients, mix, season to taste with salt, pepper, vinegar, vegetable oil, garnish with lettuce leaves.

Olivie

Compound
boiled sausage (or boiled/fried poultry fillet) - 250g,
potatoes - 2-3 pieces,
pickled or pickled cucumbers - 2 pcs.
eggs - 4 pcs,
green peas - 0.5 cups,
boiled carrots (optional component) - 1 piece,
mayonnaise,
salt to taste

Preparation

Cut sausage or boiled chicken into cubes. Cut boiled potatoes, boiled carrots, boiled eggs, pickled or pickled cucumbers into small cubes. Add green peas.
Mix everything and season the salad with mayonnaise.

Cabbage salad with crab sticks

Compound
cabbage - 300g,
crab sticks - 100g,
corn - half a jar (400 grams),
mayonnaise

Preparation

Wash and chop fresh cabbage. Finely chop the crab sticks.
Place shredded cabbage in a salad bowl (mash the cabbage a little with your hands to make it softer), add chopped crab sticks, half a jar of corn and season with mayonnaise. Mix the salad well and serve.

Hot dishes

Chicken legs stewed in sour cream

Legs 4 pcs
Sour cream – 250g
Tomato – 1 piece
Sweet pepper – 1 piece
Salt pepper
Cut the legs in half and fry in a frying pan, preferably without oil, until golden brown. Then put them in a bowl for stewing, pour in sour cream and cut the tomato and pepper into cubes, add salt and pepper. Cover the dish with a lid and simmer over low heat until cooked through.

Cutlets baked with mushrooms and cheese

Compound
minced meat (pork + beef) - 500 g,
onions - 2 pcs,
white bread or loaf - 1-2 slices,
cheese - 100-150 g,
champignons - 150-200 g,
parsley,
garlic - 2 cloves,
mayonnaise or sour cream,
salt,
black pepper,
vegetable oil for frying

Preparation

Peel the onion and chop finely.
Peel the garlic and pass through a garlic squeezer or finely chop.
Grate the cheese.
Wash the champignons, dry and cut into slices.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, over medium heat, fry the onion and garlic for 2-3 minutes.
Place half the fried onion in a bowl and set aside.
Add the champignons to the onions remaining in the pan and fry, stirring, for 8-10 minutes (if desired, you can fry the mushrooms until golden brown or just lightly fry). Salt and pepper.
Crumble yesterday's white bread without crusts or a bun, pour in milk and leave to swell. Squeeze the swollen bread well.
Add squeezed bread, fried onions with garlic, herbs, salt, pepper to the minced meat, mix well and beat the minced meat several times, throwing the minced meat into a bowl or on the table.
Form the minced meat into round cutlets and fry on both sides until golden brown.
Place the cutlets on a baking sheet or in a baking dish.
Grease each cutlet with mayonnaise or sour cream and add a pile of fried mushrooms and onions.
Sprinkle cheese on top.
Bake at 180°C ~25 minutes.

Meat in French

Compound
pork - 400-500 g,
onions - 3-4 pcs,
hard cheese - 200-300 g,
mayonnaise - 400 g,
pepper,
salt,
greenery

Preparation

Wash the meat, dry it and cut it across the grain into layers 1 cm thick.
Beat each layer of meat well, add salt and pepper.
Peel the onion and cut into rings or half rings.
Grate the cheese on a coarse grater.
Place the meat on a greased baking sheet.
Place onion on top of the meat (not in a very thick layer).
Pour mayonnaise over the meat.
Sprinkle with grated cheese.
Bake for 25 minutes at 180°C.
Let the finished meat sit for 10-15 minutes. Serve hot, sprinkled with herbs.

Stuffed peppers

Compound
minced meat (pork + beef) - 400 g,
pepper - 7-10 pcs,
rice (dry) - 2-3 tablespoons,
onion - 1 piece,
carrots - 1 piece,
garlic 2 cloves,
tomato - 1-2 pcs,
parsley, dill,
tomato paste - 1 tablespoon,
sugar - 1/4 teaspoon,
vegetable oil for frying,
salt,
pepper

for tomato-sour cream sauce
tomato paste - 2-3 tablespoons,
sour cream - 200 g,
water - 1-1.5 cups (more is possible)

Preparation

Wash the peppers, carefully cut out the seed box and rinse again to remove the seeds.
In a saucepan or frying pan heated with vegetable oil, lightly fry the peppers on all sides and transfer them to a plate.
Prepare the filling:
Rinse the rice and boil until half cooked in salted water. Drain the water.

In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, fry the onion for 3 minutes, add the carrots and fry, stirring occasionally, for 4-5 minutes.
In a large bowl, combine minced meat, rice and fried onions and carrots.
Wash the tomato, dry it and grate it on a coarse grater, discard the skin.

Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Add tomato mass, tomato paste, herbs, garlic, salt, sugar, pepper to the minced meat and mix well.
Fill the prepared peppers with the resulting minced meat.
Place the peppers in a saucepan or other thick-walled container.
Prepare tomato-sour cream sauce:
Combine sour cream with tomato paste, dilute the sauce with water, salt and pepper.
Pour the resulting sauce over the peppers.
Cover the saucepan with a lid. Over medium heat, bring the liquid to a boil and reduce heat.
Cook the peppers for 40 minutes.
Turn off the heat and let it brew under the lid for another 10 minutes.
When serving, sprinkle with herbs and sour cream.

If funeral services take place on fast days, then the food should be fast.

If the commemoration falls during Lent, then the commemoration is not held on weekdays, but is postponed to the next (forward) Saturday or Sunday. This is done because only on these days (Saturday and Sunday) are full Divine Liturgies performed, and during the proskomedia, particles are taken out for the departed.

Memorial days falling on Bright Week (the first week after Easter) and on Monday of the second Easter week are transferred to Radonitsa - Tuesday of the second week after Easter.

Lenten food

Lenten pancakes

Lenten pancakes are prepared without adding baked goods (cow butter, eggs, sour cream, sugar, etc.). For lean pancakes you will need: 4 cups of flour (buckwheat or wheat, you can mix both types of flour), 4.5 cups of milk, 20-25 g of yeast, salt to taste. Pour half a glass of warm milk into an enamel pan and dilute the yeast in it, add another one and a half glasses of milk. While stirring, add 2 cups of flour. Mix the dough well, cover the pan with a towel and place in a warm place. When the dough has risen (increases 2-3 times in volume), add the rest of the flour, milk, salt, stir well and put it back in a warm place. After the dough has risen again, you should bake the pancakes, carefully scooping the dough so that it does not fall. The frying pan is usually first greased with one teaspoon of vegetable oil.

Snacks and salads

Sandwiches "Spring"

Compound
white or brown bread - 4 slices,
Guacamole sauce or avocado pulp (optional component in the recipe) - 4-6 teaspoons,
tomato - 1 piece,
cucumber - 0.5-1 pcs (small),
lettuce leaves,
basil or dill greens,
lemon - 1/3-1/2 pcs,
salt,
black pepper

Preparation

Cut white or black bread into slices (if desired, the bread can be fried in vegetable or olive oil and cooled).
Spread the slices of bread with Guacamole sauce.

* if you don’t have Guacamole sauce, you can simply chop the avocado pulp with a fork, add salt, and sprinkle with lemon juice - spread this avocado cream on the bread
* if there is no avocado, you can not grease the bread with anything at all, but immediately start placing vegetables on the slices of bread or, if the bread is fried, you can rub it with half a garlic clove

Wash the tomato and cut into circles.
Cut the cucumber into circles.
Wash the lettuce leaves and dry them.
Wash and dry the dill or basil.
Place lettuce leaves, tomato slices, cucumber slices on slices of bread.
Salt the sandwiches with coarse salt, pepper and sprinkle with lemon juice.

Fish jelly

1 kg. any fish (preferably several varieties), 1 pc. carrots, 1 onion, 1 parsley root, 1.5 l. fish broth, salt, pepper.

Cut fresh or frozen fish, divide into pieces and salt. In the prepared fish waste broth, boil pieces of fish together with roots and spices, then take out the fish, strain the broth, pour it over the fish and put it in a cold place to harden.

The vinaigrette

Compound
potatoes - 2-3 pcs,
beets - 1 piece,
carrots - 1-2 pcs,
sauerkraut - 100-150 g,
onion - 1 piece,
salted or pickled cucumbers - 2-3 medium pieces,
vegetable oil,
green onions - optional
salt

Preparation

Wash potatoes, beets, carrots well.
Place the vegetables in a saucepan, add water, bring to a boil and cook until tender.

* If desired, vegetables can be wrapped in foil and baked in the oven at 180°C until cooked. Each vegetable must be wrapped separately in foil.

Peel boiled vegetables and cut into small cubes.
Peel the onion and chop finely.
Cut the cucumbers into cubes.
Squeeze the sauerkraut a little from the brine.
Add a little vegetable oil to the beets and stir - then the beets will not color the rest of the vegetables.
Combine together: potatoes, carrots, onions, cucumbers, cabbage, season with oil and mix gently.
Add beets, salt to taste and mix everything together again.
When serving, you can sprinkle with green onions.

Salad of Chinese (white) cabbage with tomatoes

Compound
Chinese or white cabbage - 1/3 of a small cabbage,
tomatoes - 2-3 pcs,
bell pepper - 1 piece,
vegetable oil,
salt

Preparation

Wash the cabbage, drain and chop.
Wash the tomatoes, remove the stems and cut into small slices or cubes.
Wash the bell pepper, remove the seeds and cut into cubes.
Mash the cabbage a little with your hands so that it releases the juice and put it in a salad bowl.
Add tomatoes and peppers.
Salt the salad (you can lightly sprinkle it with lemon juice) and season with vegetable oil.

Potato salad with pickled mushrooms and green peas

Compound
potatoes - 6-8 pcs,
onion - 1 piece,
pickled champignons or other mushrooms - 1 jar,
pickled cucumbers - 4-5 pcs,
green peas - 1 can,
greens (optional),
salt,
pepper,
vegetable oil

Preparation

Wash the potatoes well and cook in their skins until tender. Peel and cut into cubes.
Drain the liquid from the marinated mushrooms and cut into slices.
Cut pickled cucumbers into small cubes.
Peel the onion and cut into half rings or quarter rings.
Drain liquid from green peas.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Combine the prepared ingredients: potatoes, mushrooms, cucumbers, onions, green peas, herbs, salt, pepper.
Season the salad with oil and mix.

Canned fish salad with green onions

Compound
canned fish - 1 can,
olives - 0.5 cans,
green onions,
potatoes - 2-3 pcs,
lean mayonnaise or salad dressing

for salad dressing

vegetable oil - 2 tbsp. spoons,
lemon juice - 1 tbsp
pepper,
salt

Preparation

Mash the canned food with a fork.
Boil the potatoes, cool and cut into cubes.
Cut the olives into rings.
Chop the green onions.
Combine canned food, potatoes, onions, olives, season with salad dressing or lean mayonnaise, add salt to taste and stir.
Salad dressing: vegetable oil, lemon juice, pepper, salt - combine all ingredients.

Hot dishes

Eggplant stuffed with mushrooms

Compound
eggplants - 2 pcs.
bell pepper - 1-2 pcs,
onion - 1 piece,
tomatoes - 2 pcs.
champignons - 150 g,
garlic - 2-3 cloves,
parsley or cilantro,
walnuts,
vegetable oil,
salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the eggplants, cut off the stems and cut each eggplant lengthwise into 2 halves.
Carefully cut out the flesh from each half using a knife or spoon and set aside.
Place the hollow eggplant boats on a baking sheet or in a baking dish, salt them on the inside and grease them with vegetable oil.
Bake the boats at 230 degrees for 10-15 minutes.
Peel the onion and chop finely.
Wash the pepper, cut out the seed box and cut into small cubes.
Cut the eggplant pulp into small cubes.
Wash the champignons, dry and cut into slices or small cubes.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Peel the garlic and pass through a garlic press.
In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, fry the onion for 2 minutes.
Add pepper and cook for another 4 minutes, stirring.
Add eggplant and stir-fry for 7 minutes until eggplant is cooked through. Salt and pepper.

* When the eggplants are ready, you can add grated tomato without skin, stir and simmer for another 4 minutes.

Add chopped herbs, garlic and stir.
In a separate pan, fry the champignons for 8-10 minutes.
Combine eggplants with mushrooms and mix the filling well.
Remove the eggplant boats from the oven and fill them with filling.
You can sprinkle crushed walnuts on top of the eggplants.
Bake in an oven preheated to 200 degrees for 10 minutes.
When serving, sprinkle with chopped herbs.

Lenten cabbage rolls with vegetables and champignons

Compound
cabbage - 1 medium head,
rice (dry) - 100-120 g (about 0.5-0.75 cups),
tomatoes - 1-2 pcs (optional),
onions - 1-2 pcs,
carrots - 1-2 pcs,
champignons - 150-200 g,
garlic - 1-2 cloves,
parsley, dill,
tomato paste or tomato sauce 1-2 tablespoons,
vegetable oil for frying,
salt,
pepper

for filling

tomato paste or tomato sauce 3-4 tablespoons,
water - 0.5-0.75 liters,
salt

Preparation

Wash the head of cabbage and separate it into leaves.
Place cabbage leaves in boiling salted water for 2-4 minutes until the leaves are soft. Immerse 2-3 sheets in water at a time.
Remove the boiled leaves using a slotted spoon and place in a colander. Cool.
Cut off thickenings from each leaf.
Prepare the filling.
Boil the rice until half cooked (5 minutes).
Wash the champignons and cut into slices.
Wash the tomatoes, peel them and cut the pulp into small cubes.
Peel the garlic and chop finely.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Peel the onion and chop finely.
Wash the carrots, peel and grate on a coarse grater.
In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, fry the onion for 2 minutes, then add the carrots and fry together for another 3-4 minutes.
Place the onions and carrots in a bowl and fry the champignons in the remaining oil for 4 minutes.
Combine together: rice, onions with carrots, champignons, tomatoes, garlic, herbs, salt, pepper (you can add 1-2 tablespoons of tomato paste) and mix the filling well.
Place 1-1.5 tablespoons of filling on the prepared cabbage leaves and roll up the cabbage rolls.
Fry the cabbage rolls in hot vegetable oil for 2 minutes on each side.

Prepare the filling: combine water, tomato paste, add a little salt and mix well.
Pour the filling over the cabbage rolls, cover with a lid and bring to a boil over high heat.
As soon as the liquid boils, reduce the heat to low and cook at low simmer for 30-40 minutes.

Oat cutlets

Compound
oatmeal - 1 cup,
water (boiling water) - 0.5 cups,
fresh champignons - 3-4 pcs,
potatoes - 1 piece,
onion - 1 piece,
garlic - 2 cloves,
greenery,
salt,
pepper,
vegetable oil for frying

Preparation

Pour oatmeal into a bowl or saucepan, pour boiling water, cover with a lid and leave to swell for 20-30 minutes.
Peel the potatoes, wash and grate on a fine grater.
Peel the onion and grate it on a fine grater.
Cut the champignons into small cubes.
Chop the greens.
Pass the garlic through a garlic press.
Add potatoes, onions, garlic, mushrooms and herbs to the swollen oatmeal - mix the mixture well, add salt and pepper.
The oatmeal mass should not be too thick and not too liquid - so that you can scoop it up with a spoon.
Place oatcakes in a frying pan heated with vegetable oil using a tablespoon.
Fry the cutlets over medium heat on one side until golden brown.
Turn over to the other side, fry for 1 minute over medium heat, then reduce the heat to low, cover and cook for 5 minutes.
Cutlets can be served with fresh vegetables or mashed potatoes.

Fish with vegetables baked in mayonnaise

Compound
fish fillet - 300-400 g,
potatoes - 5-6 pcs,
carrots - 2 pcs.
onions - 2 pcs,
mayonnaise,
salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the fish fillet, dry it and cut into portions.
Cut the potatoes into large cubes.
Cut the carrots into cubes.
Cut the onion into rings.
Place a layer of fish in a greased baking dish, add a little salt and pepper, place chopped vegetables on top: potatoes, carrots, onions - add a little salt and pepper to the vegetables and pour mayonnaise over everything.
Place the fish and vegetables in the oven over medium heat and bake for 40 minutes until cooked through.

Pies

From lean yeast dough prepared according to this recipe, you can bake pies with different fillings, open and closed.
Ingredients: 2.2 kg of flour, 2 cups of warm water, 1 cup of vegetable oil (0.75 cup is possible), 30-40 g of yeast, 1 teaspoon of salt.
To prepare lean yeast dough according to this recipe, you need to dissolve the yeast in 0.5 cups of warm water and place in a warm place. When the yeast foams, knead the dough from the indicated products, cover with a towel and place in a warm place.
Knead twice and form pies. If the filling is juicy, you need to make a hole in the middle of the pie so that it does not burst from the steam during baking. The surface of the pie is brushed with strong sweet tea and baked at 180 degrees until done. After baking, lightly brush the cake with boiled water, cover with a towel and let it rest.

Pie fillings

Apple filling

Wash the apples, peel them, removing the seeds (the skin does not need to be cut off, as it contains aromatic essential oils), cut into slices. Place the apples in a bowl, add granulated sugar, butter, a little water and simmer.

Potato filling

Potatoes - 7-10 pcs. medium size; onions - 3 pcs.; butter - 4 tbsp. spoons; eggs - 2 pcs.; salt and pepper - to taste.
Instructions: Peel the potatoes, rinse, boil, mash until smooth, add raw eggs, butter, sautéed onions, salt, pepper and mix thoroughly.

Fish filling

fish fillet 600 g, 2 onions, flour 1 tablespoon, vegetable oil 4 tablespoons, bay leaf, salt, pepper, herbs to taste
Wash the fillet, salt and fry on both sides. Then cool and pass through a meat grinder. Finely chop the onion, fry until pink, add flour and fry until light brown. Then dilute with a small amount of water or broth to the consistency of thick sour cream, add minced fish and mix everything well.

Stuffed rice with mushrooms

rice 3 tablespoons, fresh mushrooms 100-150 g, vegetable oil, water 3 glasses for cooking rice, onion 1, wheat flour 1 teaspoon, salt, pepper to taste
Cook the rice. Peel the mushrooms and boil in salted water until tender. Pass the cooked mushrooms through a meat grinder and fry. Prepare the sauce as follows: pour vegetable oil into a frying pan, heat it and fry finely chopped onion in it. Add a tablespoon of flour and fry it until it turns light brown. After this, pour in about a glass of water, and the mixture should have the consistency of thick sour cream. After boiling the mixture for 10 minutes, add salt, pepper, and chopped herbs. Mix the sauce with rice and minced mushrooms.

Fresh cabbage filling

Chop 1 head of medium-sized white cabbage and add salt. After 10 minutes, squeeze it out, put it in a saucepan, pour in 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil, add grated carrots or, if you like, finely chopped onion. Fry, stirring, until soft so that the cabbage does not brown. When it cools down, add ground black pepper and finely chopped dill.

Orthodox canons establish that there should be no alcohol at the funeral table, since the main thing in a funeral service is not food, but prayer, which is clearly incompatible with a drunken state, in which it is hardly permissible to ask the Lord to improve the afterlife fate of the deceased.

Beverages

Gingerbread cookies, gingerbread cookies, pancakes, and sweets are served with drinks, but cakes and pastries are not recommended.

Kissel

Nowadays they cook liquid sweet fruit jelly, but in the old days jelly (jelly - sour) was prepared from flour - rye, oatmeal, wheat - with sourdough and sourdough. Oatmeal jelly was thick, it was cut with a knife and eaten with a spoon (remember milk rivers with jelly banks in Russian folk tales). That is why the funeral custom preserves jelly in this form: with milk. You can make your own oatmeal by grinding oatmeal in a coffee grinder.

Oatmeal jelly

2 cups oatmeal, 2 tablespoons honey, 8 cups water, salt to taste. Pour warm water over the oatmeal and mix well so that there are no lumps. Let it swell for 6-8 hours (you can leave it overnight). Then strain through a sieve, add honey, salt and cook, stirring, until thickened. Pour hot jelly into molds, let it harden and cut into portions with a knife.

Cranberry jelly

200-400 g cranberries, 6-8 tbsp. spoons of sugar, 4-6 tbsp. spoons of potato starch.
Sort the cranberries, rinse, rub through a sieve, squeeze out the juice. Pour the marc with five times the amount of hot water, bring to a boil, strain. Cool part of the broth and dilute potato starch in it. Put sugar in the remaining broth, boil it, then pour in the diluted starch, squeezed juice and bring to a boil. Pour into a dish, sprinkle with powdered sugar to prevent a film from forming, and cool.

Apple jelly

Finely chop 2-3 pounds of apples, boil in water with a piece of cinnamon, strain through a sieve; Mix 5 glasses of this juice with 1/4-1/2 pound of sugar, grated with lemon zest, squeeze the juice out of 1/2 lemon, boil, pour in flour diluted with 1 glass of cooled apple broth, boil thoroughly, stirring constantly.
take: 6-8 apples, cinnamon, 1/2 lemon, 1/2-1 cup. sugar, 1/2-3/4 cup. potato flour.

Dried apple jelly

Take 1/2 pound of dried apples, pour 6 cups of water into them, boil the apples, strain and rub through a sieve, pour into a saucepan, add 1/4 or 1/2 cup of sugar, boil, pour in a glass of water mixed with 1/4 or Boil 1/2 cup potato flour, stirring vigorously, pour into mold, cool, serve.

Raspberry, red or black currant jelly, cherries or plums

Pour water over the berries, boil, grind with a spoon, strain, take 5 cups of this juice, add 1/4 or 1/2 pound of sugar grated with lemon zest, boil, pour in flour diluted with 1 cup of cold water, etc. Serve sugar separately.

Take: 1-1.5 lb. berries, 1/2-1 cup. sugar, 1 cup. potato flour, lemon zest, sugar.

Cranberry juice

For 2 liters of water – 250g cranberries. Mash the cranberries and squeeze out the juice through cheesecloth, put the pulp in water, bring to a boil and boil for 7-8 minutes. Leave for 30 minutes to cool. Strain through cheesecloth, add juice and sugar to taste.

Bread kvass

half a loaf of rye bread;
3 liters of boiled water;
half a pack (25-30 grams) of dry yeast;
half a cup (125 grams) of sugar;
raisin.

Preparation

Cut the rye bread into regular pieces and cut into quarters. Place in one row on a baking sheet and place in a low-heat oven. The bread should dry thoroughly and lightly brown, best done over low heat. Dry the crackers for about 10-15 minutes, then turn off the oven, leaving the baking sheet in it.

Place the finished crackers in a non-oxidizing container (an ordinary three-liter jar is perfect for these purposes) and pour boiling water over them up to the shoulders of the bottle. Add three tablespoons of sugar and leave to cool. Cool a small amount of water, for example a glass or even less, to body temperature or slightly higher and pour dry yeast into the water. When the water in the jar has cooled to about 36-37 degrees, pour the diluted yeast into the jar and mix thoroughly.

After this, cover the jar with the future kvass with a lid or saucer and set aside in a warm place for 2 days.

After this period, carefully strain the infusion through a very fine sieve or cheesecloth to completely separate the grounds. Place the grounds in a separate jar.

Add the remaining sugar to the strained infusion and mix thoroughly until it dissolves. Add a well-washed handful of raisins to the infusion and leave at room temperature for another half day. After this, pour the kvass into plastic bottles and carefully tighten the lids, because Kvass must be very well sealed. Place the bottles with the finished product in the refrigerator and after a day you can drink the kvass.
The grounds obtained during the preparation of kvass can not be thrown away, but stored in the refrigerator in a glass jar. Now this is ready-made sourdough, and when preparing the second portion of kvass, instead of diluted yeast, add 4 tablespoons of sourdough to the breadcrumbs. Next, everything is as in the recipe: let it brew for two days, drain, add sugar and raisins, let it sit again and put the bottles in the refrigerator. It is better to renew the starter, i.e. leave the last portion of grounds.

Lemonade recipe

To prepare lemonade, cut 5 lemons into slices, remove the seeds, put in a saucepan, add 300 g of sugar, pour in 2 liters of water and put on fire until one fifth of the liquid has boiled away.
Place the drink in the refrigerator. Serve lemonade with ice cubes

Sbiten

Dissolve 100 g of honey and sugar in 1 liter of boiled water, add cinnamon, cloves and boil for 15-20 minutes, and then strain.
Sbiten is served hot.

The funeral meal ends with a general prayer of thanksgiving.

Funeral speech at a funeral text - farewell words spoken in memory of the deceased by his family and friends. They are pronounced over the grave of the buried with all their hearts. The speaker talks about important and significant events associated with this person, his achievements, and also speaks on the good side about the character and personality of the deceased. It is advisable if he says this orally, and not reads it from a piece of paper.

Funeral speech

Quite a lot of people attend funerals and wakes. Mostly these are relatives and friends of the deceased, but there are others - colleagues, acquaintances, school friends and others. As a rule, the head of the family or the oldest and closest person is the first to pronounce the funeral words. If he is in a strong emotional state, then others present can speak at the wake.

Funeral speech example:

“My grandmother was a wonderful person with a difficult but interesting life. She, along with her three younger brothers and sister, were raised by her mother alone during the difficult post-war years. To say that they lived poorly then would be an understatement. She had to endure many difficulties and hardships, but she never lost her optimism and presence of mind, constantly helping her mother and taking care of the younger members of the family. And later, having married her military grandfather, she steadfastly endured all the hardships of service. In any circumstances, she always maintained exemplary order at home and taught all family members to do so. Grandma was sometimes strict, but fair. I am glad that I managed to learn from her neatness and order, the ability to organize my life. And her famous apple pies were simply incomparable, no one else could do them! I will always remember you, my dear, beloved grandmother! Your warmth, love and care will remain with us forever.”

If others don’t know you well, then at the beginning of your speech you should introduce yourself and explain under what circumstances you met the deceased. The funeral speech should contain words of gratitude towards the deceased and reflect his positive qualities. You can mention any significant moment that occurred with the participation of the deceased.

Funeral words for 40 days:

“I’ll introduce myself for those who don’t know me: my name is (name). We have worked together with (name of deceased) for the past few years and I would like to say a few words in memory of him. He was a true professional in his field, a Specialist with a capital S. Many of our colleagues, young and not only, learned the basics of their craft from him and often used his advice and help. He was very patient and responsive, he could always listen to everyone who turned to him for support, advise something, help out, and never refused anyone’s requests. He could perfectly lift the spirits of anyone who was upset, confused or depressed about something. The countless funny stories, toasts, jokes and anecdotes he told could amuse anyone. We will all greatly miss him at our dinner gatherings and corporate events, where he invariably shone at the table, lifting our morale. There is no other person like him in our team. And maybe it won’t be in my memory anymore. We will all miss him greatly. Until the end of his life, he will remain in my memory and the memory of all our colleagues as an example of perseverance, sparkling cheerfulness, activity and professionalism! Rest in peace, dear colleague!”

It is advisable if you prepare the words for the wake in advance and memorize them. Because a well-formulated text will sound good and be perceived by others. And sluggish, boring speech with hesitations can be regarded as disrespect for the deceased and his family. If you are afraid that you will forget the words, you can take with you a piece of paper with a sample of the funeral speech. You need to pronounce words clearly and slowly. You need to speak confidently and so that others can hear you, but not too loudly.

Speech at a wake examples

Funeral words on the anniversary of death (from a colleague):

"Friends! The deceased worked honestly at the (name) enterprise for more than twenty years. We all knew him as a decent, honest and modest person. They were valued for their skillful hands and reliable character. We will miss his many invisible but irreplaceable contributions to the work! The bright memory of him will remain in our hearts!”

Speech at the wake 1 year (from friends):

“Friends, the best of us has gone to another world. We are all deeply saddened. Our souls are bleeding from untimely loss. The deceased was a support to all of us. He was the first to help and did not wait for requests or complaints. His kind heart and wide soul were always open. He was a clear light and guide in a difficult and dangerous world for all of us, his friends! May the soul of this magnificent man rest in peace! We will always remember him with a feeling of light sadness mixed with secret melancholy!”

Memorial speech for 40 days (from relatives):

“All his life, our father was a worthy example not only to his children, but also to those around him. In everyday life, he demonstrated a wise understanding of true values, kindness and devotion. Any person left him with an enlightened soul. And to us, his children, our father instilled a love for people, a high sense of responsibility and devotion to the Motherland. We consider his departure unfairly early. Eternal, blessed memory to him!”

“Our grandfather was a very kind and good person. His path was long and difficult. He perceived all the difficulties that befell the country as his own. He worked and raised children without complaining about the lack of benefits, lack of food or amenities. He raised children and was a support for his grandchildren. This magnificent man will be greatly missed by all of us. May his memory be blessed!”

Words of condolences are expressed not only during funerals, but also on days of remembrance of the deceased. They say a speech at funerals 40 days later, a year from the date of death, as well as during Parents' Saturdays and other Orthodox holidays. Speeches can be made both at the cemetery and during funeral dinners.

What do they say at wakes? At this event, all deceased relatives and friends are remembered. They remember what they were like during life, what they were interested in, what they loved. Words of condolences are spoken and the blessed memory of the deceased is honored. It is forbidden to say anything bad about the deceased or to recall old grievances. It’s either good or nothing, says the popular saying.

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Funeral poems

In addition to the funeral speech, condolences can be expressed in poetry or toasts. These options are more suitable for a wake than for the funeral itself. For example, memorial poems are read on the anniversary of death. They can be written with your own hand or taken ready-made. If you do not have the opportunity to personally attend the wake, you can express your condolences by posting memorial poems in the newspaper.

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Two tears fell into the flowers,
Two big, pink roses!
From my tormented soul
Hopeless tears rolled out!
They see my wet eyes
Something they don't believe in at all
What you can never change
What is measured with pain and tears!
My heart beats stubbornly
And desperately doesn't want to know
That you can no longer see your beloved eyes,
And you can no longer hug your dear ones!!!

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You have always been an example to us,
As a person with a pure soul.
And the memory of you is alive
In the hearts and souls of your loved ones.

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People close to us are leaving.
Do not realize that - forever,
Do not exhaust all the pain of separation,
And he hits backhand - never.

We won't see them, we won't hear them,
We won't ask, we won't talk,
Although, as before, we breathe them,
We love them, we wait for them, we adore them.

Ridiculous, strange, impossible,
That dawn has come again,
Call, scream or cry heart-rendingly,
And there are no more loved ones nearby.

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We cannot understand or comprehend
Can't survive, can't overcome,
That the chariot of life circles,
As it was before, exactly the same.

The sun is shining and the air is so fresh,
What days it is, but it’s very sad.
Gone is the beautiful hope from hopes
And again my heart is sad and empty.
There has been silence in the apartment for six months now,
Everything there is yours and it’s hard to believe in it.
I would drink the cup of grief to the dregs,
But it still cannot be measured.
I really want to come to you again,
Kiss and just be with you.
With hope to resist in the fight,
Argue with illness and disease.
The further you go, the more immeasurable the depth
The abyss that has come between us
Like you now, like in childhood, I need you,
But it is impossible to beg with tears.
I'm strong, you know I can do it
After all, you and I have been through so much.
I am forever in your debt,
You are an eternal piece in my world.
I'll bring you flowers and stand
And the heart will touch with its wound.
And you will feel how much I love you
My beloved, only mother.

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Memorial verses for 1 year:
You died too early
Words cannot express our pain.
Sleep, dear, you are our pain and wound,
The memory of you is always alive.

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We come here
To put flowers,
It’s very difficult, dear,
We can live without you.

***
The Great Tribulation cannot be measured,
Tears won't help my grief.
You are not with us, but forever
You will not die in our hearts.

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Where do all the dreams go?
And why don't they return?
How we experience pain
After all, they were happy once.
Like waking up every day
Understand that this is all reality,
How painful it is to remember that day
When everything in life changed.

***
My soul is worried without you,
You don't need girlfriends or friends.
Why is it possible without millions?
Why is it impossible without one?

***
I don't rock you in your crib
I come again to the cold fence
I will fix the fallen wreath
And I will sing to you, dear son...

***
They usually leave without saying goodbye,
Without whispering my last words,
Perhaps without going on a long journey,
On that long road of dreams and dreams.
Just yesterday they smiled sweetly at us,
Their eyes emitted a bright light,
And as always, waiting for us to visit,
We dreamed of giving our friendly advice.
They, like all of us, really wanted to live,
And every moment brought them joy,
We didn’t have time to do everything we wanted to do,
They still had so much strength.
At some point, everything broke off,
Someone from above told them their deadline,
The soul rushed about in confusion,
That she didn’t even have time to tell us a few words.
Even if they are not with us, we love them,
And we remember joyful days,
And our heart will never forget them,
It’s as if they are somewhere nearby.

***
We are sad and sad
And there are no other feelings.
Let's remember all the parents,
Let's remember all our relatives!

Let's remember all those who have passed away,
In the prime of his life,
Brothers and sisters of the dead,
Friends and strangers!

They once lived
And they made us happy
Laughed and loved
They took care of us.

A long time ago or recently
They are no longer with us
And reverently to the grave
We bring a bouquet!

In fast-flowing time
We don’t remember other things,
But you are family to us
More than alive!

We ask You, Lord,
About mercy alone,
Forgive their sins, Lord,
May their souls rest!
***
Among those who love there is agreement
Among the lonely there is only pain
Among those deceived by love - revenge
And among the dead - memory and separation

***
Death took you away on a path of no return
And brought me beyond the boundaries of existence.
Here I dissolved in the quiet echo of the alarm
A life lived “in Russian” is yours.
And all that was in the heart before was pain and rage,
Dreams, hopes, faith and love -
In the space of space it suddenly invisibly disintegrated,
But maybe it will be reborn in someone again.
And there are white-trunked birches near the grave,
When the moon is silent in the night,
Tears and dew fall before the clear dawns of the earth,
That the mother's eyes did not drain to the bottom.

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Your watch has stopped. how you didn’t want to leave!!!
But the heart has stopped beating, and we can’t bring you back,
You've been through a lot in your life,
War and famine, but you survived in spite of everyone.
Your clocks are ticking in your friends' houses, everyone loved you! you've always been lucky!
Giving life to your family’s watches, you poured your breath into them.
You lubricated their hearts and eased the hours of suffering.
But you couldn’t help yourself, and it’s useless to lubricate your heart.
I didn’t win in this fight, I gave my all, I gave everything for free.
We gave you the warmth of our hearts, and we were always with you,
Our dear grandfather, father-in-law, father and father-in-law,
You were so afraid to be alone, you were so afraid to be with yourself.
But the black hag came to you, swinging her scythe and hitting you straight in the heart.
The clock has stopped, but the soul
Stayed with us, we are always with you, we are together.
February, frost, trees without leaves, and we haven’t learned to live without you.
You wanted to be with us so much, but alas
Your watch has stopped...

Funeral toasts

Funeral toasts at a wake are usually said at the table. They do not necessarily specify the identity of the deceased. You can express general condolences to all the deceased:

The grandfather sat in heaven and wept bitterly. A boy came up to him and asked why he was grieving. The old man answered him:
- There is a custom on earth - to drink for the repose of our souls. And then we are always full and with a full jug of wine. We are glad that the children remember us. And now I have an empty jug and that’s why I’m sad.
So let's drink to those who are not with us!

Friends, today is a day of sorrow. There was a time when we had fun and rejoiced with someone who left us. But today you and I drink this cup of sorrow ourselves, seeing off a person close to us on their last journey. Not everyone in the world was honored with the Dormition, like the Mother of God and other holy people. But we will keep in our hearts the good memory of our friend, having hope for resurrection and a new meeting in a new place. Let's drink to the dregs the wine of sadness!

In a wolf pack, the leader suddenly died without leaving a will. The wolves announced a meeting to elect a new leader. For three days they argued and squabbled, because each was afraid that the new leader would begin to take revenge on those who voted against him. When they were already hoarse from screaming, the old wise wolf stood up and said:
- Let's choose someone from outside our pack to be an impartial leader.
Everyone agreed and asked who. Then the wise old wolf suggested choosing a goat as leader. The wolves began to be indignant:
- We just didn’t have enough goats yet!
But the wise old wolf explained:
- Even though he is a goat, he has one advantage: if he starts causing chaos, he can always be bullied.
The wolves agreed with a laugh and called the goat. When they brought the goat trembling with fear, they said to him:
- Listen carefully! We will choose you as our leader if you don’t act like a jerk.
The goat became even more frightened and replied:
- I'm a goat. But I renounce my asshole past. I swear I will never be an asshole again.
The wolves made an approving noise and dedicated the goat to their leader.
“Now you are our leader,” said the old wise wolf. - You can order us whatever you want, and we will obey. Our fate is in your hands.
All the wolves, with their tails between their legs, nodded affirmatively and asked the goat to make a speech. The goat quickly jumped onto the rock, spread his legs wider, fluffed out his beard, stuck out his horns, looked around the silent flock with a slow gaze and bleated sternly:
- Well, which one of us is the goat?
So let's remember our glorious leaders!

Toasts at a wake can also be expressed in poetic form:

Blessed memory of those who have left us,
Let's drink to this now.
Let it be like granite in our hearts,
Preserves the memory of loved ones who have passed away.
Let all the good things that happened to them
A damp grave will not bury you.
No matter how long we keep the memory,
He will live with us for that long.

Funeral notes

You can also honor the memory of the deceased with the help of memorial notes. In churches there is a special table where there is a memorial note sample on which you can write it. A cross is placed at the very top of the sheet and marked “for repose.” Then the full names of the deceased are written in the genitive case and in church spelling (for example, Ivan - John), neatly and legibly. Usually about ten to fifteen names are written. Moreover, everyone who is written there must be baptized in the Orthodox Church.

In addition to the names, the note indicates which deceased person is: newly deceased - deceased for forty days after death or ever-memorable (worthy of constant remembrance) - deceased who has a memorable date on this day.

When going to a funeral or wake, it is important to remember etiquette. You need to behave delicately and tactfully. It is worth preparing words of condolences, which can be expressed through a funeral speech, memorial poems or toasts. An appropriate and competent speech will be appreciated with gratitude by the family and friends of the deceased.

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