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Monologue technique

There are events after which we cannot calm down for a long time. Sometimes an hour, sometimes several days, and sometimes a week or more.

Such experiences distract us from fresh impressions and new tasks. These experiences seem to keep us stuck in the past.

In this case, “Monologue” will help put thoughts and feelings in order in order to internally complete the situation.

The essence

Speaking thoughts and feelings out loud.

When to use

The technique is suitable for working in situations of psychological stress.

How to use

1. Find a secluded place where you will not be disturbed or interrupted.
2. Take an alarm clock with you and set it, giving yourself 5 minutes to exercise.
3. Think of a situation or person that makes you feel negative, difficult, or conflicting. Ask yourself: “How do I feel about this?” and start saying out loud everything that comes to your mind. To make it easier for you to express your feelings, start with the phrases: “I’m worried,” “I’m completely fed up with the situation...”, “I’m confused (confused)....”, “I’m annoyed (anxious, embarrassed...),” etc. d.
4. Keep talking. At some points, you may find yourself thinking that you are talking nonsense and that it is not true. It `s naturally. Don't judge your feelings or statements. Don't say: "That's stupid" or "That's not possible." Continue. The main task now is to simply say what comes to mind. Don't stop until you hear the alarm.
5. After the alarm sounds, stop, take a short break and listen to your feelings. Usually five minutes is enough to feel better. If you still have tension about the situation, repeat the procedure again, starting from the first step.

Result

The monologue technique allows you to defuse emotional tension and concretize your own experiences.

Explanations

This technique can be viewed as a confidential conversation with oneself about one's feelings and thoughts, or as a practice of being kind, interested, and more understanding about oneself.

The founder of the psychodrama method, Jacob Moreno, used the Monologue technique to enable a person to express experiences that correspond to psychological truth. Thus it became clear true attitude to the event.

This is exactly what we are trying to do with the above exercise. This can help the energy “locked” inside to be expressed and not return us again and again to the experienced situation. After such a “discharge” it is much easier to respond to new events that happen to us.

Expressing real, genuine thoughts and feelings is not always possible right away. The alarm clock helps with this - it seems to push the feelings to “go on stage”.

Some people find it easier to talk while walking rather than sitting. Physical movement serves as a kind of warm-up for the expression of feelings and thoughts. In this case, you can walk in a circle with small and leisurely steps.

To learn more

Come to the Moscow Psychodrama Conference:

http://pd-conf.ru/

If we fall in love, then we ask ourselves - how did this happen, why do feelings arise for the person about whom all our thoughts are now? How does sympathy and love come? It turns out there are many explanations for how this happens. “Popular about health” will tell several theories famous people, who tried to shed light on the question of how love arises.

First impression

First chance meeting with a person can change a lot in life. When we meet a guy or a girl, we pay attention to appearance, although we know that it is often deceptive. But it still matters. If a person seems attractive to you in appearance, and a short-term acquaintance was accompanied by some striking episode, then feelings may arise. You involuntarily begin to think about that meeting, replaying phrases and events that were heard over and over again in your head. This is how sympathy is born and the desire for a new meeting arises.

Eye contact

In almost 50% of cases, a glance is the culprit of incipient sympathy. A close and interested gaze penetrates the soul. People feel it and react – some with mutual interest, others with indifference. When you catch the eye of a person of the opposite sex, you can’t help but feel awkward. Following this emotion, mutual interest in the guy or girl may develop. No wonder there is a saying that everything always starts with a look. What happens next? Let's find out what the famous anthropologist Helen Fisher says about this.

Chemical processes in the body

When asked why another person suddenly felt “attracted” to a person, scientist Helen Fisher gave a scientific answer. According to research, when we meet a person who becomes the object of our passion, chemical processes occur in the body. The woman scanned the brains of lovers, which revealed that hormones produced by the brain - dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine - are responsible for the feeling of emotional uplift and euphoria. Thanks to them, the lover feels excitement and endless happiness while being close to the object of love. If the relationship went further, the couple entered into sexual relations, then the hormonal background changes somewhat.

The hormones discussed above continue to be produced, but a new feeling of attachment and belonging to the object of desire arises. We owe this to the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin. According to Helen Fisher, all this “chemistry” of love has a limited duration. The hormonal surge sooner or later fades. The scientist says that passionate, crazy love lasts no longer than 3 years, and is replaced by confidence in the partner, trust in him, and deep affection. We have considered only one point of view, which answers the question of why superfluities arise. positive emotions to a person, but there are others. Let's discuss them.

Sigmund Freud's theory

According to the theory of the famous psychoanalyst, every person subconsciously tries to find a love object who is somewhat similar to his parent of the opposite sex. Sigmund Freud explains that in childhood we all experienced the most strong love, and in youth and in mature age we want to experience it again. A young man is looking for a girl who is like his mother, and a woman is looking for a man who is like her father. All this happens subconsciously. If we meet a person with facial features, facial expressions, gait or voice and manners that resemble a parent of the opposite sex, then we fall in love with him.

John Money's theory

American sexologist John Money put forward another hypothesis about why feelings appear. His theory is similar to the theory of Sigmund Freud, the only difference is that, according to the sexologist, a person subconsciously looks for a love object similar to the person who previously left vivid impression in our life. John Money says we fall in love again with those who are like our first love, our teacher, our favorite actor or singer.

Pheromones

Pheromones are special substances that are released in the body; they emit a barely perceptible odor. Pheromones play an important role in choosing a partner and attraction to him. When we meet a person, our receptors either react to their smell or not. If feelings for a guy or girl arise, perhaps this is a reaction of the receptors to the source of pheromones. After all, it happens that it is difficult to communicate with a partner, his character seems unbearable, and you cannot get rid of the thought of him. If you're experiencing this, it's probably due to pheromones.

Romantic image

Another reason why feelings begin is an invented image. Often, romantic natures who dream of love for a long time fall in love with the image that they themselves come up with. They dream of a partner and a relationship that does not exist yet, they languish in anticipation of meeting him. If they find a person similar to that image, they fall in love at first sight. Often such relationships turn out to be one-sided, and love is unrequited.

The question of why feelings for a person are born is difficult to answer unambiguously. IN different situations the development of sympathy is influenced by various circumstances, subconscious attitudes, one’s own romantic images, and chemical reactions occurring in the body. Sometimes love cannot be explained in words, but if it has entered your life, take care of it.