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Hatred is a pronounced feeling of rejection, a persistent desire and goal to cause harm, accompanied by a persistent aversion to a living being, person, event, object, phenomenon.
One of the reasons for the emergence of a feeling of Hatred is a person’s lack of understanding of a clear, unambiguously understandable structure of life and the location of oneself relative to the point and axis - Hatred and the axis -. Where is the origin of coordinates and the starting point of the Good - Evil scale?
Hate and Love are opposite feelings, however, these concepts are emotionally and logically interconnected. If the main slogan is the desire to selflessly give and bring joy, then the main slogan of Hatred is the desire to deliberately take away and bring pain. At first glance, this statement seems controversial, but it is correct.
Hatred is very difficult to fully understand, structure, and position due to the multifaceted nature of its manifestations. There is an assumption that people have this condition Hatred and Hostility exists for the survival of the species, progress in development and stimulation in the development of species and subspecies.
The strength of the connection between Love and Hate and the conditions for the transition of one into the other may depend on the culture of the person himself. A person himself may suffer from a hidden form of Hatred, direct it against all living things and not be aware of its true causes.
A child has a serious influence on the formation of the foundations of Love and Hate when communicating with parents, kindergarten, and school. Parents have the greatest influence.
In the future, the child’s grievances and wrong attitude within himself and the projection of his views on society, society, and parents are transmitted for the rest of his life. While receiving education, a person grasps additional data and attitudes from easy and unverified sources. Layering on additional shells and layers of Hatred transmitted from relationships in society, the Internet, and television, a person is completely closed off from the opportunity to show love to others and hear love.
Age-related irreversible human conditions.
This is the state of the psyche and the very essence of a person in which he will no longer be able to completely erase incorrectly acquired knowledge or incorrect views on life. This condition is called stagnation of mental development.
According to preliminary data from working with clients and my observations, the age of a person’s closure and deep Defeat of women by Hatred is 39 years old. U men age, a state of deep Hatred and the inability to return, constitutes 59 years old. At this age, both men and women, their character, outlook on life, internal beliefs and negative attitudes are subjected to very strong pressure and corrosion. Here is an example of real, easily recognizable household psychoviruses broadcast by people. Examples of psychoviruses and popular expressions that destroy the psyche of people and cultivate Hatred in a person:
- You do not love me at all.
- You want to drive me into a coffin.
- Why do you hate your brother so much?
- You don't care about me at all.
- Have you completely forgotten your family? Have you decided to leave us?
- Weak, impotent, woman.
- You will work as a janitor.
- Yes, our second child was born a fool...
- Whore. All you can think about is who to jump into bed with.
- He will leave you.
- You will be deceived again.
Hatred is not always a consequence of our thoughts and actions in creation or an irreconcilable contradiction between our vision and perception of something and what is in reality.
Now let's look at the emergence of this negative feeling from the perspective of interpersonal relationships. For example, a wife was raised in the traditions of a strong, friendly family based on love, devotion and fidelity to each other. Her inner potential is to give her love and care to her family and husband. Accordingly, she does not accept betrayal and lies in the family.
My husband was brought up on different principles. For some time he played the role of an exemplary family man, but he met another woman and left his family, leaving his wife with two children.
If the wife had a life position that was not very different from her husband’s views on the family, the separation could have passed without powerful emotional upheavals for her, but the whole point is that she loved her husband, and his treachery shook her to the core. External realities associated with betrayal and separation from her husband do not correspond to her internal ideas and attitudes.
In this example, each side had different views and a different position - assessment actions should be carried out as close as possible to each of the parties. Perhaps hatred on the part of the wife will look like a wish for happiness and vice versa.
Point of relativity Love - Hate
It would seem that hatred, in its structure, should be homogeneous and the same for everyone. It is enough to give a definition - this is good, this is bad, this is Love, but this is Hate. However, this is not entirely true; it goes much deeper. Let's ask questions:
Where is the point of relativity - this is Good and this is Evil?
Where is the generally accepted, global scale of values? Where is the point of relativity - this is Love, and this is Hate? Where is your personal scale of values and point of relativity? What is the unit of measurement for Love or Hate? What are the most extreme positions of these feelings. Our society and human development, moving towards a technogenic society, have come up with and assessed many parameters of physical quantities, but there are no strict values and assessments of the degree of impact of destructive psychoviruses. We can say that the cause of hatred is ourselves and our high expectations and ideas, but this is not entirely correct.
Everyone has their own axis of evil and Hatred. For example, dogs hate cats. Muslims hate Christians.
The search for truth and attitude towards Hatred is complicated by the position of the starting point of coordinates and the point of relativity. Looking at even this simple example from different points of view, one can see that cats also have deep reasons to hate dogs, and Christians to hate Muslims.
High expectations and own views
Hatred is an irreconcilable contradiction between our high expectations, our idea of something, our vision of something and what exists in reality. These are our high expectations, views, position in life.
Our pain and disappointments that come from high expectations are not just in marriage, they are a deadly poison in every relationship that strikes at the very heart of every relationship. This is the problem of our whole life.
Marriages end in divorce for one reason and one reason only: the high expectations of two people. A gaping chasm of disappointment forms between external realities and human demands. This abyss, the depth of this abyss, is Hatred.
Causes of Hatred
The causes of Hatred are intentional and unintentional actions. Unintentional is the lack of the correct educational process and the correct explanation of the realities of life and fictitious idealistic pictures of the world. The reason is also the parents' own ignorance in these matters.
Deliberate Hatred, transmitted from the outside, is a method of inciting conflicts in society, enmity between people. Broadcasting negativity, openly lying flows of information, distorting facts and nurturing hatred are methods of starting wars. The objects of Hate can be children, teenagers, groups of people, city society, nation, country, continents, countries, political systems, religions, etc.
The unleashing of open information propaganda can be considered as a fact of aggression against an object, country, state. This is an integral tool for waging Wars, a universal destructive method of exterminating all living things. These are elements of Aggression from the enemy.
Hatred can be hidden. She is extremely dangerous and difficult to escape from. Hidden hatred is not directed at those people who actually caused it, but at anyone they meet along the way.
Hatred, turning into various types of character distortions, can persist throughout life and pose a serious threat not only to the people around them, but also to the person himself who carries it within himself.
Proper upbringing of children and inoculation of Love
Your children, as a continuation, are a kind of reflection of the aggression of their parents. Moreover, their accumulated aggression far exceeds yours. If you are filled with hatred, your children bear an increased responsibility, since they have an enhanced program to destroy the object of hatred.
If you hate people, you can easily get a son who is a murderer. In order to eradicate hatred, we must first stop justifying it. Many people believe that there is a kind of law of conservation of hatred in nature, that if you stop hating someone who did you bad, you begin to hate yourself, that hatred is a manifestation of our life force, that if a person is deprived of hatred, this will be the amputation of all his emotional life.
Energy of Hate
Some philosophers are trying to prove that Hatred can be not only destructive, but also a creative feeling, like Love. All these are attempts to whitewash Hatred, without bothering to analyze the true essence of this strong and deep feeling - just a delusion.
If a feeling of Hatred arises, implement plans for Revenge or forgive. A superficial vision within the framework of rejection - hatred - punishment does not reveal the essence of the problem. If you hate, then you need to realize this desire and feeling, get emotional satisfaction and close this flow of negative energy that devastates. In other words, act, bring your revenge plans into real force, get satisfaction, and extinguish your internal dissatisfaction.
Do not accumulate or intensify the feeling of Hatred, do not add additional facts or comparisons, conclusions. The faster you remove the source of tension, the more productive and calm your future peace of mind will be. Read and remember the concepts of Revenge and Forgiveness.
You should know the consequences of this feeling. The nature of the problem or illness depends on the strength and direction of Hatred. When we experience a feeling of hatred, we throw out a powerful charge of negative energy into space and attract more powerful negativity.
Unrealized and uncontrolled release of energy, in the form of outbursts of Anger and adrenaline, can provoke tumors, severe skin diseases, and acne. The depth and duration of exposure to a feeling of unsatisfied Hatred can cause serious problems and additional negative personality traits such as Resentment, Anger, Vengefulness, Unforgiveness, Grudges, Intransigence and other states and feelings.
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Hatred is the opposite feeling of love. This definition seems banal, but in reality it is not. Just like love, hatred is a very strong feeling. It is capable of completely taking over a person and his entire life, so it is often impossible to give a rational assessment to it. Popular wisdom says: “From love to hate there is one step.” And indeed, how much you can sometimes hate a person who was most recently dearly loved. Of course, this happens for a reason, but in response to offended feelings (for example, a husband’s betrayal can cause sincere disgust in a wife, although most recently the wife sincerely loved her husband). Thus, love and hatred are closely interrelated, although they are at opposite poles of the scale of human feelings. After the disappearance of both love and hatred, a person ultimately becomes completely indifferent and indifferent.
Hatred is always associated with threats, fear, violence and crime. A person gripped by this feeling is capable of any action, since his mind ceases to control other feelings. Thus, hatred is a negative feeling. After all, a person blinded by it is unpredictable, and no one knows how and when his anger will break out. In the worst case, the person becomes obsessed with anger or revenge, although this condition is rare. Most often, everything ends in a fight or the person demonstrates clear disrespect towards the object of his hatred, for example, insults, starts quarrels, etc. Sometimes hatred does not manifest itself at all. However, it continues to exist and have a negative impact on human life.
Hatred can completely take over a person and poison his life. Due to the effect of negative emotions, a person sometimes does not realize his actions.
How to respond to hatred?
The reaction depends on who hates whom and in what form it manifests itself.
They hate you
If you see that you have caused someone's anger, then there are only two options: you must either try to talk to this person and explain yourself, or avoid him. Still, the first option is better, since only a frank conversation and analysis of the causes of anger will allow you to get rid of it and improve relationships. However, sometimes it is better to stay away from a hateful person, thereby trying to protect yourself from him.
you hate
If you feel that you hate someone, you should not immediately suppress this feeling. First of all, we must try to understand the reason for this attitude, whether it is justified. You need to ask yourself:
- Why did I have negative feelings? What words or actions caused them?
- Do I know this feeling? Did similar events previously cause a storm of negative emotions in me?
- What actions am I capable of under the influence of anger?
- How can I manage these feelings?
- How do I feel knowing that another person hates me greatly?
Only frank answers to these questions and their careful analysis will allow a person to understand the complex mechanisms of the generation of negative emotions and try to develop a plan for further behavior with people around him.
Attitude towards yourself
Self-hatred can lead to personality destruction. For example, various pathological attractions, depression, self-doubt. The extreme manifestation of self-hatred is suicide.
object of hatred as an extremely negative influence on the life of the subject, preventing the satisfaction of his important .But this definition is. Yes, yes, that's a lie. Hate is NOT a FEELING. And the so-called “feeling” is not at all what is usually called by this word. What is now commonly called “feeling” is actually just an emotion. So “hatred” in the generally accepted concept is simply emotionalization.
You will spend a very long time searching on the Internet for the answer to the question “what is hatred” - Google gives , Yandex - . And there is no answer anywhere.
Why is that?
The answer is simple - because it is not beneficial for people to know what hatred really is. It's not beneficial for parasites. Because if a person understands what hatred is, discovers it in himself and works on it, then he will cease to beslave.
A few months ago conducted such an experiment - he wrote an article on Wikipedia in which he wrote what hatred really is. Guess how long the article remained on the site? It was removed within an hour, if not sooner. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, the “owners” are not interested in you knowing the truth.
Hatred is an inability, an inability to SEE, a denial.Everything is built into this very word:
I HATE=I DON’T-SEE=I DON’T SEE.
I don’t see, I can’t and I don’t want to see. See this world as it is. See its patterns, see cause-and-effect relationships. Denial - denial of the material world, the subtle world, mother, father, children, money, etc.
Very often people do not want to notice anything to such an extent that hatred develops into a strong emotion - anger and aggression. This is what in blind zombie society is called hatred. Those. blind zombie-killers notice hatred only when it has already grown to such a magnitude, has already caused so much trouble that even a blind person will notice.
Hatred is the cause of all misfortunes. The original reason, the main one. A person living in hatred is like a blind man who does not see where he is going, does not see the obstacles in his path. And he notices an obstacle only when he presses his forehead against it. For which he often gets hit on the forehead.
Moreover, with his hatred a person attracts these very obstacles and troubles to himself. He creates them for himself.
HATE IS ALWAYS CORRECTED BY VIOLENCE. A PERSON WHO LIVES IN HATE IS PUNISHED FOR THIS WITH DISEASES.
Nature/God/The Universe wants a person to work through hatred within himself, and in every possible way contributes to its discovery. For example, a woman hates men, and there will be no MAN next to her. It won't appear. And those men who will be next to her will only cause trouble for her - wake her up, show her her hatred. And this will happen until this woman discovers her hatred for men and works through it.
Or the so-called “maternal love”, which “did not lie next to real love”. Mothers still think that they “love” their children. They really hate it. Oh, how they hate it. But they don’t see it, HATE doesn’t allow them to see it.
HATE IS ALWAYS MUTUAL. LIKE LOVE.
So children also hate their mothers in return. And thus they show mothers their motherly hatred. While the child is small, while he cannot live without his mother, all that remains for him is to save and cultivate retaliatory hatred towards his mother. But then, when the child becomes an adult, he returns his mother’s hatred a hundredfold. And thereby awakens, brings maternal hatred to the surface, and the mother begins to openly hate her own child. But he still doesn’t realize his hatred.
DENIAL OF HATE IS THE HIGHEST FORM OF ITS MANIFESTATION.
I deny what I deny. I don't see what I don't see.
Another meaning of the word HATE.
I HATE = I DO NOT HATE
, i.e.I DON'T SEE NAV
. Those. I don’t see the subtle world, the world of cause-and-effect relationships.
IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO SEE HATE!
There is no hate detection file in my head. Simply no. The inability to see does not allow one to see oneself. Detect Hate
It is possible to detect hatred only through its manifestations in the surrounding reality, in the real world.
I’ll tell you how to discover hatred in yourself and how to work through it during a personal consultation. Sign up for a personal consultation.
FEELING OF HATE
AURA COLORS
- RED color is anger.- Bright red color - wildness, extreme jealousy.
- Scarlet color – irritability.
Ancient Chinese medicine associated liver disease with anger and increased irritability. Modern medicine claims that it is in this organ that anger, irritation, anger, hatred, and primitive feelings are localized.
- Red-brown color - sensuality and greed.
Negative emotions experienced towards another person create attachments along the chakras.
Muladhara (base chakra) – fear, aggression.
Svadhisthana (gender chakra) – lust, obsession.
Manipura (umbilical chakra) – submission or, conversely, the desire for power.
Anahata (heart chakra) – love and hate.
Vishuddha (throat chakra) – the desire for self-realization.
Ajna (frontal chakra) - attachments to what a person considers to be true, principles and attitudes.
Sahasrara (crown chakra) – attachments to egregors.
"There is no fire greater than passion; there is no misfortune greater than hatred; there is no misfortune greater than the body; there is no happiness equal to peace of desire"
Disdain, contempt, bias, mockery, ridicule, causticism, irony - all these are manifestations of hatred. Hatred flares up again and again. She is insatiable, like lust and greed. She may retreat temporarily, but then returns with a vengeance. If a father does not like someone, his children also begin to hate this person, without any reason, because he did not cause them any harm. Such is the power of hatred. Sometimes one memory of an old offender who insulted a person forty years ago causes an outburst of hatred in the latter.Hatred is strengthened by repeated manifestations of hatred. Hatred cannot be defeated by hatred, it is destroyed only by love. This illness requires long and persistent treatment, as it takes deep roots into the subconscious. It lurks in the most unexpected corners of the soul.
The Englishman hates the Irishman, and the Irishman hates the Englishman. A Catholic cannot stand a Protestant, and a Protestant cannot stand a Catholic. This is enmity between peoples and religions. Sometimes a person at first sight, without any reason, begins to hate another. This hatred can come from previous incarnations. In our world, ordinary people do not know what pure love is. Selfishness, envy, greed and lust are the companions of hatred. During the period of Kali Yuga, hatred intensifies.
We need to cultivate pure, selfless love. There is one Self in all living beings. Why be angry with others? How can you treat them with contempt? Why divide and look for differences? Realize the unity of life and consciousness! Feel the Spirit of Unity (Atman) everywhere. Rejoice, radiate peace and love.
In my first battle of power, I faced my enemies in the fog.
- But you have no enemies.
It's not in your nature to hate people.
- But it was in me.
My hatred of people was a way for me to indulge my weakness.
Now this is gone.
I conquered hatred in myself, but in that first battle of power it almost destroyed me...
Power is a very strange, magical thing.
In order to fully possess and command it, you must first acquire a certain amount of power, sufficient to begin with.
However, you can do it another way: gradually accumulate strength, not using it at all until you gain enough strength to withstand the battle of strength.
K. Castaneda. Travel to Ixtlan.
Hatred is the ultimate manifestation of rejection
Let's break down the word "hate" into its components - no – on – I see. It turns out that when we hate, we mentally get rid of the person: “I don’t see you anymore.” That is, you are no longer there. How often do we say: “My eyes wouldn’t see you” or “I don’t want to see you.” That is, not wanting to see a person is also hatred.
There is another manifestation of hatred - indifference and indifference. It is the same hatred, only suppressed. If you have a feeling of indifference towards someone, it means that you once hated this person, but did not forgive or thank him and did not realize why you attracted him into your life. And now this hatred in the form of indifference sits deep in the subconscious and poisons your life.
Hatred at the energetic level is not just a wish for death, but it is already murder. The first message from John the Theologian says: “Whoever hates his brother is a murderer...” And such a program of destruction necessarily unfolds against the author himself and turns into a program of self-destruction.
Hatred leads to very serious illnesses. First of all, it “hits” the head and eyes. Epilepsy, Parkinson's disease, paralysis, head injuries and injuries in general, migraines, eye diseases, tumors, severe skin diseases can be a consequence of hatred. In fact, people destroy each other on a subconscious level, and then wonder why there is so much violence in the world.
If a person has several gallstones, then he experiences hatred towards several people. The more a person has to keep a smile, hiding anger in his soul, the more he has to pretend, the more often kidney stones occur.
The nature of the problem or disease depends on the strength and direction of hatred. For example, if a man hates a woman, then his “manhood” suffers. Everything is very simple. After all, in every person there is a male and female principle of the Universe. And by directing his hatred at a woman, a man destroys himself. A man has been suffering from prostatitis for several years. Sexual weakness is already appearing. No medications or procedures help. And the cause of the illness is his hatred and contempt for his wife, his desire to take revenge on her for her betrayal. If a woman despises and hates a man, she receives a “blow” to her genitals. The wife has been offended for a long time and hates her husband for his immoral behavior and insults. After some time, she is diagnosed with a uterine tumor. Children who hate their parents suffer from an unsettled personal life and receive the same attitude from their children towards themselves. The daughter condemns and hates her alcoholic father. And the father is for the girl the embodiment of the masculine principle of the Universe. Since childhood, a program for the destruction of men has been operating in her subconscious. She grows up and gets married. First marriage - unsuccessful - divorce. A girl is born from the first marriage (boys will simply not be viable). The second marriage was also unsuccessful. And a girl is also born from the second husband. A woman is trying to build a family with another man, and even lives with him for some time. But then the relationship breaks down. And her daughters grow up and marry men who drink, insult and beat them. The program of hatred towards men, laid down by the mother, acting in the subconscious of the descendants, returns back with retaliatory aggression.
If a person hates a group of people, a society, a country, then not only himself, but also his children will suffer. Hatred is a powerful program for the destruction of those against whom it is directed. In children this program is intensified many times over. A man who hates scoundrels, scoundrels, got a son who is a drug addict. A woman who hated people got a killer son.
Hatred as a way of behavior also has a positive intention. If you hate a government for its actions, then with your hatred you want to destroy this government so that it can be replaced by another that would meet your demands. After all, you want to live in a fair, highly moral state, in which you would be respected. If you hate your neighbor for his meanness, then you want to destroy him so that justice can reign. If someone wants to take your money, then you start hating that person. You want to save your money. If someone “steals” your loved one from you, then you hate this person and are ready to destroy him. If you hate a loved one, it means that he humiliated, insulted or offended you so much that you are ready to kill him. And you kill him. Only mentally.
Hatred, as a derivative of
This is the desire to put your feelings, your morality, justice and decency above all else. But the higher you rise, the harder it will be to fall. And in general, on what basis do you believe that your model of the world, your worldview, is true? Your worldview is just one point of view on Reality out of several billion. And every point of view deserves respect. And moreover, how can you make the world a better and cleaner place with the help of murder caused by hatred? This is absurd! There is nothing bad or dirty in this world. God created a pure and beautiful world. It is necessary to accept the idea that this world is very harmonious and fair. And indeed it is. After all, everyone is rewarded according to his thoughts and actions, according to his faith. Everyone creates their own world. This idea is difficult for some people to accept. It is very difficult for them to give up their old beliefs and principles.
Doctor, are you suggesting that I speak of “black” as if it were “white”? - the patient, an elderly man suffering from a serious illness, is indignant.
- How can I approve of the actions of a thief who stole the last money from a pensioner, or the actions of our government, which stole from millions of people?
“I’m not forcing you to approve of the actions of thieves, swindlers and murderers,” the doctor answers. “I propose to accept the idea that the Universe is very harmonious and fair, and begin to see this in your life.”
If a thief stole money from a pensioner, it means that she herself attracted him into her life with her thoughts. Maybe she felt sorry for her neighbor, a poor pensioner. Or maybe she despised or hated the rich man. It was these thoughts and feelings that attracted the thief.
So who is to blame? No one. Everyone just got their own thoughts. The higher power, the Universe, taught the pensioner through the thief the correct attitude towards money.
You may disapprove of the thief's actions, but you shouldn't condemn him either. Wish each of them good luck on their life path: the pensioner - to handle money correctly, and the thief - to take care of his material well-being in other, positive ways.
- What about murder, and even innocent children?
- A child attracts a murderer into his life because even before incarnation his soul decided to work off some part of karma in this way; this can also be a lesson for people who will be associated with this murder.
- Doctor! With all due respect to you, everything you say does not fit in my head. And to be more frank, this is all nonsense. You give me medicine that will cure me, and that’s all. And I don't want to change anything. Even in the face of death, I will not change my principles.
- Well, then I can hardly help you. But in any case, I wish you good luck.
How strongly and deeply certain dogmas and principles have been implanted in us, which bring pain and suffering into our lives. And we unconditionally accepted them on faith, without even trying to doubt their justice.
If you want to be healthy and have healthy offspring, free yourself from hatred. To do this, take responsibility for your world! Start with yourself. Change your thoughts and your behavior - and the world around you will change. New thoughts will create new situations. Learn to accept! Accept yourself, other people, your life and destiny. Respect yourself and others! By showing respect to others, you respect yourself first. Learn to approve and praise! Strive to notice only the good, positive, and useful in people. Remember that every person has any qualities. And if your thoughts are pure, then people will show you their best sides.
If you want to change the world and people around you, you can use violence. There is such a way. This is a very good way. Good for making your life and the life of your children miserable. And if you take responsibility for using this particular method, then remember the consequences that will follow. According to one of the laws of the Universe - like attracts like - your hatred will attract retaliatory violence into your life.
The outside world is my world, and I create it myself, then by changing my worldview, I change my world, and therefore the world around me.
If you want to change those around you, change yourself. Then there will be no complaints against anyone - after all, everything depends on you.
1. Hate in response to hate
We usually don't like people who don't like us. The more we think they hate us, the more we hate them back.
2. Competition
When we compete for something, our mistakes can benefit our competitors. In such cases, in order to maintain our self-esteem, we shift the blame to others. We begin to blame our failures (real and imaginary) on those who are doing better. Gradually our disappointment can turn into hatred.
3. Us and them
The ability to distinguish from enemies has always been vital for safety and survival. Our thought processes have evolved to be faster at spotting potential danger and responding accordingly. Therefore, we constantly enter information about others into our own “directory”, where all our views about different people and even entire classes of people are stored.
We usually classify everything into one of two categories: right or wrong, good or bad. And since most of us don't stand out in any way, even minor, superficial differences, such as race or religious belief, can become an important source of identification. After all, we, first of all, always strive to belong to a group.
When we consider ourselves part of a particular group that we perceive to be superior to others, we are less inclined to sympathize with members of other groups.
4. From compassion to hatred
We consider ourselves responsive, empathetic and welcoming. Then why do we still experience hatred?
The fact is that we have a clearly formed opinion about ourselves and our rightness. And if we cannot reach a compromise, we, of course, blame the other side. Our inability to fully appreciate the situation, as well as the fact that we always make excuses for ourselves, lead us to believe that the problem is not with us, but with those around us. This view often incites hatred.
In addition, in such situations we usually consider ourselves the victim. And those who violate our rights or limit our freedom seem to us to be offenders who deserve punishment.
5. The influence of prejudice
Prejudice can influence our judgments and decisions in many ways. Here are some examples.
Ignoring the other side's strengths
There are no clear-cut situations. Everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. But when we are in the grip of hatred, ours is distorted to such an extent that we do not see any positive qualities in our opponent. This is how we develop an incorrect idea about a person, which is then quite difficult to change.
Hate by association
According to this principle, the nature of the news influences our perception of the person reporting it. The worse the incident, the worse everything connected with it seems to us. This is why we blame the messenger, even if he has nothing to do with the event.
Misrepresentation of facts
Under the influence of prejudices based on likes and dislikes, we usually fill in gaps in information about an event or person, relying not on specific data, but on our own assumptions.
The desire to please
We all value the opinions of others to varying degrees. Few people want to be hated. Social approval greatly influences our behavior. Remember the words of the French writer and philosopher La Rochefoucauld: “We willingly admit to small shortcomings, wanting to say that we do not have more important ones.”
How does hatred manifest itself?
Physical and mental pain is a very effective stimulus. We don't want to suffer, so we strive to either avoid or destroy the enemy. In other words, hatred is a defense mechanism against pain.
Hatred can find different expressions. The most obvious of them is war.
Moreover, it manifests itself in politics. Remember these eternal confrontations: left and right, nationalists and communists, libertarians and authoritarians.
How to get rid of hatred
- First, through prolonged close contact with people. Collaboration is especially effective when you collaborate to achieve a common goal or unite against a common enemy.
- Secondly, thanks to equal status in all aspects (education, income, rights), which will not only apply on paper.
- And finally, and most obviously, we must be aware of our own feelings and try not to dismiss the feelings of others. When you are overcome by strong emotions, it is better to simply step aside, take a deep breath and try to get rid of your prejudices.
